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Hi everyone I am the new widow on the block.
48y had my wife for 26 years she passed away 6month ago . After battling 4y off breast cancer .
She was a solid 9 . About me i am 5’7’ handsome well groomed . I Owen a couple off restaurants in Canada i am well off . My game was always good but not the escalation . Now due to COVID and wife sickness and busy business life. I lost all my friends circle and my only wingman just moved to us . IAM reading the Bible now . I fell that women are afraid off my states in the same time I can t go below 7 .
tried old that sucks . I have more game one in one . I really need to make a new friend circle.
Any idea ? And my only hobby is going to the shooting range for now?need more idea
thanks
 

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Reestablish your social circle. Reach out to the friends you have lost contact with. Chances are they are worried about triggering a grief response. Use that friend circle as an anchor to your standards and feeling of self worth.
 

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Thanks for the respond actually that’s I am trying to do . Maybe I am too worried? Maybe let things go naturally. Am sure me being stress out doesn’t help .I will keep reading
 

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Sorry for my English I speak French here . I am not over yet . But starting to be bored and empty . Not looking for Ltr more friendly hangout . So live can go on . 6 month before my wife died she was trying to hook me up . For me that’s was crazy. I didn’t accept it . But now I starting slowly to move on .
 

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I really need to make a new friend circle.
Any idea ? And my only hobby is going to the shooting range for now?need more idea
Unfortunately women are rare on the shooting range..... though i have met quite a few which have been interested and i took them on a range-date.

If you are not already, go to your local gym, lots of socializing possibilities with guys there.

No need to get stressed over dating and socializing. Take your time, enjoy your own company, try a few things/hobbies you are interested in.
 

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Agreed. You need to stop focus on hobbies and activities that are male dominated or solo, and instead start some new hobbies that are likely to have women in them - especially the type of women you like. My favorites are: run clubs, fitness classes, ultimate frisbee leagues, and volunteering for specific kinds of charitable events. You'll also meet guys there you can become friends with and expand your social circle with.
 
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Hi everyone I am the new widow on the block.
48y had my wife for 26 years she passed away 6month ago . After battling 4y off breast cancer .
She was a solid 9 . About me i am 5’7’ handsome well groomed . I Owen a couple off restaurants in Canada i am well off . My game was always good but not the escalation . Now due to COVID and wife sickness and busy business life. I lost all my friends circle and my only wingman just moved to us . IAM reading the Bible now . I fell that women are afraid off my states in the same time I can t go below 7 .
tried old that sucks . I have more game one in one . I really need to make a new friend circle.
Any idea ? And my only hobby is going to the shooting range for now?need more idea
thanks
Get out of Canada. It is a feminist "woke" cesspool. The feminists drive the legal system and the next one you get involved with will take those restaurants from you and everything else that makes you think you are well off. She will "Zero you out". There was a story a while back out of Canada of a guy who paid out through the nose to a woman, and they weren't even married,...all they did was break up. She had kids,...already had them,...they were not his,...but he got stuck paying support for the kids as well.

No Home, Marriage or Kids Yet Man Pays $53,777/m For 10 Years

 
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Get out of Canada. It is a feminist "woke" cesspool. The feminists drive the legal system and the next one you get involved with will take those restaurants from you and everything else that makes you think you are well off. She will "Zero you out". There was a story a while back out of Canada of a guy who paid out through the nose to a woman, and they weren't even married,...all they did was break up. She had kids,...already had them,...they were not his,...but he got stuck paying support for the kids as well.

No Home, Marriage or Kids Yet Man Pays $53,777/m For 10 Years

For the purposes of the OP's post your post is absolutely worthless. You did nothing to help him, except add more anxiety.
 

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Thanks guys definitely will look for new hobbies. And I am gonna give up old it sucks really bad . Especially that will be back to normal soon this summer. I will keep reading here to learn more
 

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Hi everyone I am the new widow on the block.
48y had my wife for 26 years she passed away 6month ago . After battling 4y off breast cancer .
She was a solid 9 . About me i am 5’7’ handsome well groomed . I Owen a couple off restaurants in Canada i am well off . My game was always good but not the escalation . Now due to COVID and wife sickness and busy business life. I lost all my friends circle and my only wingman just moved to us . IAM reading the Bible now . I fell that women are afraid off my states in the same time I can t go below 7 .
tried old that sucks . I have more game one in one . I really need to make a new friend circle.
Any idea ? And my only hobby is going to the shooting range for now?need more idea
thanks
I'm sorry about your wife.

Your grammar is horrible, by the way.
 

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I would give up OLD yes. Especially as an older guy. Nothing but trash on there. The women I cold approach on the street would never give me the time of day on OLD, and that's if they haven't already filtered me out due to age before even having the chance to see my pictures.
 

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I lost all my friends circle
Did this happen simply because you were too busy to keep in touch with them? Like nothing bad happen, you just drifted apart?

If that's the case you should definitely call them. I'm sure they know what you've gone through, they won't expect an apology and probably fully understand why you've pulled back.

I have friends I haven't met in a couple of years, called them up and continued as if there wasn't a long pause. This is because there was never really a negative reason why we stopped hanging out, life just happened and we kinda drifted apart, it happens. It's not a big deal.

So long as they don't dislike you for some reason you haven't really lost them. They might just keep their distance because they think that's what you want, you may have inadvertently signalled you want to be left alone. Fairly normal in your circumstances if you ask me.

Sorry about your loss, call your friends though.
 

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Did this happen simply because you were too busy to keep in touch with them? Like nothing bad happen, you just drifted apart?

If that's the case you should definitely call them. I'm sure they know what you've gone through, they won't expect an apology and probably fully understand why you've pulled back.

I have friends I haven't met in a couple of years, called them up and continued as if there wasn't a long pause. This is because there was never really a negative reason why we stopped hanging out, life just happened and we kinda drifted apart, it happens. It's not a big deal.

So long as they don't dislike you for some reason you haven't really lost them. They might just keep their distance because they think that's what you want, you may have inadvertently signalled you want to be left alone. Fairly normal in your circumstances if you ask me.

Sorry about your loss, call your friends though.
An apology goes a long way.

Tbh when I see these things happen it's cause of a girl most often then not.

Guy gets his P touched. Most ****ing up and off. If you live the playboy lifestyle she keeps you guys apart as she gets fat and he grows gyno.

As your buddies pair up, if solid guys, make the time when you can. Drop a msg. Alternatively sometimes you just grow apart. They start a family and life goes on.
 

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I would give up OLD yes. Especially as an older guy. Nothing but trash on there. The women I cold approach on the street would never give me the time of day on OLD, and that's if they haven't already filtered me out due to age before even having the chance to see my pictures.
Swipe apps and websites are a bad idea, both for the 35-50 year old crowd, and the 18-34 year old crowd.

A woman can't ghost in the middle of a conversation in the street or at the grocery store.

Real life approaching in any form is the way to go.
 
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