"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Wide Grip Pullups - It took me a year but now...

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It took me a solid year of back workouts only skipping 4-6 weeks out of 52 in the year but I can now do a solid with good form 12-14 wide grip pullups as my first set of pullups on my back workout.

When I started doing back exercises, I could not do ONE pullup. So I went to the assisted pullup machine that helps by lifting you beneath your feet. Then I had a work-out partner for a while hold my feet and help me.

Now... after a year of doing pullups wide grip, I can hop up and do 12-14 non-assisted hanging wide grip pullups for my first set. Progress is possible if you stick to it people!
 

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She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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That's a WHOLE lot in and of itself, but going from none to 14 is a great improvement. :)
 
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I also get complimented on the definition i've added to my back (mostly from dudes at the gym) but hey a compliments a compliment!

I am happy with my gains in strength and physique and the message here is to stick with it!
 
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Interesting because I just worked my lats/ back yesterday and pullups wide grip is our first exercise too. I also can't do 1 completely on my own. Just don't have the pulling power yet.. My m8 assists me for 3 sets of 6-8.

Congrats on that where I want to get too.
 

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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Charm said:
I also get complimented on the definition i've added to my back (mostly from dudes at the gym) but hey a compliments a compliment!
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Do you walk around shirtless at the gym?
 
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I remember being so happy being able to do my first set of pullups. What I did was do negatives for a while and then switched up to pulling as far as I could go.
 
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Good to hear. Now it is time to add some weight to your pullups.
 
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mrRuckus,

I dont walk around shirtless but I do wear sleevless shirts when I work out. When you wear those, and you have a V-taper back like i've developed from pullups, people will notice it and sometimes compliment. Also you can see the rear-delts and parts of the back. I workout at a Powerhouse Gym, famously known for bodybuilding freaks so people tend to be more straight forward about commenting on gains. Its not uncommon to hear people say "nice gains", "you're looking fuller or thicker, etc." immature people might think its gay but its bodybuilder talk.

I do want to try adding some hanging weights from my pullups. I first want to spend about 3 more months cementing my gains and increasing the weights on my pull-down first. The reason being is I begin to fatigue quickly after my first two sets of pullups. That third set sometimes is complete crap.

What are your opinions on the assisted pullup machine for the last set to really get out perfect squeezes on each rep?
 
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What are your opinions on the assisted pullup machine for the last set to really get out perfect squeezes on each rep?
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Bah. Just add weight maybe with a db between your feet so when you can't do more you can drop it and keep going.


I posted this in another thread about pullup progression a few days ago but everyone ignored it:

http://www.t-nation.com/readArticle.do?id=459572&cr=
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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brilliant article...didn't pick it out of that other thread, which went in several directions that all bored me... once d&b weighed in on 'explosiveness' it jumped the shark...
 
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mrRuckus said:
Bah. Just add weight maybe with a db between your feet so when you can't do more you can drop it and keep going.


I posted this in another thread about pullup progression a few days ago but everyone ignored it:

http://www.t-nation.com/readArticle.do?id=459572&cr=
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Great article.
I know the difference between chins and pull ups now. :)

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Just to make sure that we're on the same page here, the difference between a chin-up and a pull-up is the grip. Incidentally, the pull-up is a type of chin-up, technically. So when I talk about chins, I often mean pull-ups, too.

Chins traditionally use a supinated grip (palms facing you), while pull-ups use a pronated grip (palms facing away from your body). As you'll see, several other grip options are available, as well.
 
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Espi,

I'm going to try your routine suggestions for the assisted pullups as the final sets. Since i've been bulking lately, sometimes pullups are a bit harder depending on my weight that day!

Also,

I DEADLIFTED 225 pounds yesterday for 7 reps! The only reason I stopped was my grip slipped after the 7th rep. It felt so awesome and my back felt amazing!:rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 
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