You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Read betw- Great post.Jariel said:Very true to life and so sad, but as time goes by I've started to sympathise a lot less for these "nice guys" who masquerade as friends...something I've been guilty of myself.
Nice guys finish last, and that's if they finish at all. I've been guilty of this sh*t, and I've got very little sympathy for guys who present nice guy cases in my court. :trouble:
There's something quite underhanded about their behaviour and in most cases they hold all their good deeds and favours over a woman like a debt. There's nothing wrong with her fvcking the housemate, but the "nice guy" will feel like she's betrayed him or used him, even though he just pretended to want friendship.
Don't be a nice guy from the beginning and you won't have these problems.:nono:
Whenever I'm into a girl these days, I make my sexual interest clear early on. If she rejects me, just wants to be friends or shows any kind of hesitation, I'll next her and move on. It saves my time.
Make this your sig! This is the way to go!
by making you sexual interest early on, do you think (besides using inuendo) that you can tell her something like 'and ... im hard' (hank moody, californication) ?Jariel said:
