Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Read betw- Great post.Jariel said:Very true to life and so sad, but as time goes by I've started to sympathise a lot less for these "nice guys" who masquerade as friends...something I've been guilty of myself.
Nice guys finish last, and that's if they finish at all. I've been guilty of this sh*t, and I've got very little sympathy for guys who present nice guy cases in my court. :trouble:
There's something quite underhanded about their behaviour and in most cases they hold all their good deeds and favours over a woman like a debt. There's nothing wrong with her fvcking the housemate, but the "nice guy" will feel like she's betrayed him or used him, even though he just pretended to want friendship.
Don't be a nice guy from the beginning and you won't have these problems.:nono:
Whenever I'm into a girl these days, I make my sexual interest clear early on. If she rejects me, just wants to be friends or shows any kind of hesitation, I'll next her and move on. It saves my time.
Make this your sig! This is the way to go!
by making you sexual interest early on, do you think (besides using inuendo) that you can tell her something like 'and ... im hard' (hank moody, californication) ?Jariel said:
