You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Read betw- Great post.Jariel said:Very true to life and so sad, but as time goes by I've started to sympathise a lot less for these "nice guys" who masquerade as friends...something I've been guilty of myself.
Nice guys finish last, and that's if they finish at all. I've been guilty of this sh*t, and I've got very little sympathy for guys who present nice guy cases in my court. :trouble:
There's something quite underhanded about their behaviour and in most cases they hold all their good deeds and favours over a woman like a debt. There's nothing wrong with her fvcking the housemate, but the "nice guy" will feel like she's betrayed him or used him, even though he just pretended to want friendship.
Don't be a nice guy from the beginning and you won't have these problems.:nono:
Whenever I'm into a girl these days, I make my sexual interest clear early on. If she rejects me, just wants to be friends or shows any kind of hesitation, I'll next her and move on. It saves my time.
Make this your sig! This is the way to go!
by making you sexual interest early on, do you think (besides using inuendo) that you can tell her something like 'and ... im hard' (hank moody, californication) ?Jariel said:
