Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why you should keep a diary.

JimmyZ

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ok, to anyone who has the intention of sayign that is not manly to keep a diary, then you have two options, Go****Yourselves, or call it a journal, that being said.

Ok, so all day long, little things happen that bother you. This guy did that. This chick said that. Now, as DJs we try to keep above the fray, but after all we are only human... The hb8 that shot you down... Hard. All these little things get to you. And they saty there... and they contribute to your stress. But most importantly, that little voice in your head that likes to pick on you, it runs off this small sh*t.

You have two ways of dealing with it.
  1. Let that little voice grind your confidence down every time something happens.
  2. or flush it out of your head, acknowledge it, and move on.

this is why I keep I diary...

let me give you an example, i'm standing in a grocery store, looking at two types of X product, and some a$shole just hit you with his cart and says: "Thanks for moving." Now, there are a re a host of different ways you can react to that. For example, you feel like going to beat him up because he made you eel like victim, you can think that you did something for this guy to see you as victim, you can go tap him on the shoulder and talk to him...

Now whatever you do, it will stick in your head and unless the guy apologized and said that he had been having a ****ty week, the odds are that the little voice in your head is going to have something to go on....

now this is where the diary comes in, if you write what you felt happened, you flush that event out of your memory... actually, let me restate that... you do all your thinking on paper, and the little voice has nothing to go on....

so give it a shot, keep a diary, whenever something happens that you feel that little voice rocking your cage about, just open it and write what happend and what you could've done, and especially what you felt...
Don't hold on to ****, flush it.

Jz.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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