"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Why would a girl tell me about her previous sexual encounter?

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I was text flirting with a girl one evening. I was out with friends and she had texted me. THings were getting quite flirty and i told her to come and meet me that night but she said she was going home and put a little :( at the end of her text.

She continued texting suggesting wouldn't I prefer this other girl we both knew and then she started telling me something about being so drunk and how her friends had to tell her what she had done. When I asked her what she was talking about she said 'Do I have to spell it out' so I'm guessing she was talking about sex. Why though? If it was to put me off her then why bother texting me at all?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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:-) said:
I was text flirting with a girl one evening. I was out with friends and she had texted me. THings were getting quite flirty and i told her to come and meet me that night but she said she was going home and put a little :( at the end of her text.

She continued texting suggesting wouldn't I prefer this other girl we both knew and then she started telling me something about being so drunk and how her friends had to tell her what she had done.
When she asked if you preferred her friend, that was your opportunity to make your intentions pretty clear. Forget the text, make the call and tell her that if she won't come to you, you'll come to her.

My only experience with women talking about their sex life was because they wanted me to be part of it.
You put in some good work but didn't close the deal. As long as you don't make her feel small about the texts she sent you (because she was probably drunk) your window of opportunity is still open here. Keep up the flirting, see where it takes you.

Good luck!
 

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Cremasta said:
When she asked if you preferred her friend, that was your opportunity to make your intentions pretty clear. Forget the text, make the call and tell her that if she won't come to you, you'll come to her.

My only experience with women talking about their sex life was because they wanted me to be part of it.
You put in some good work but didn't close the deal. As long as you don't make her feel small about the texts she sent you (because she was probably drunk) your window of opportunity is still open here. Keep up the flirting, see where it takes you.

Good luck!
Yeah, I had a women I met on a first date once that was telling me that she had a FWB that she kept around because it was "the best sex evvvvver...." so I asked her to elaborate on it...she started getting all hot and bothered, started kino'ing the f*ck out of her, hand on her knee, up her leg, rubbing her p*ssy thru her jeans, chick about jumped me and I ended up pounding her about an hour and a half after we had met the first time...

If a woman talks about sex, she is basically giving you a green light to hit it...
 

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Cremasta said:
When she asked if you preferred her friend, that was your opportunity to make your intentions pretty clear. Forget the text, make the call and tell her that if she won't come to you, you'll come to her.

My only experience with women talking about their sex life was because they wanted me to be part of it.
You put in some good work but didn't close the deal. As long as you don't make her feel small about the texts she sent you (because she was probably drunk) your window of opportunity is still open here. Keep up the flirting, see where it takes you.

Good luck!
marmel75 said:
Yeah, I had a women I met on a first date once that was telling me that she had a FWB that she kept around because it was "the best sex evvvvver...." so I asked her to elaborate on it...she started getting all hot and bothered, started kino'ing the f*ck out of her, hand on her knee, up her leg, rubbing her p*ssy thru her jeans, chick about jumped me and I ended up pounding her about an hour and a half after we had met the first time...

If a woman talks about sex, she is basically giving you a green light to hit it...
Golden.
 

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She has a bfriend. i kind of took the high road and said that it was dangerous what we were doing as someone (me) might want more. she agreed it was dangerous and said that she had to make a decision and that she just wanted me to be happy.

i asked if me getting together with that other girl would make her happy. she said 'yes it would! :)' i said 'ok i'll see what i can do'. and that was that.

all that is in the back of my mind is if she can do this to her current bfriend then what's she going to be like with me?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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