"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why would a girl lie about this ?

mikey2012

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So been seeing this chick for a few weeks but not officially going out etc.

Spent afternoon with her and was expecting to go dinner but she said she was tired and was going to cook at home. However at around 5.30 she asked me the time . Later I said why don't we get massage coz she was tired and she said no. It makes sense if you were tired then you would want a massage. It's only an hour and she would be done by 7.30 in which she could go home and cook and chill.

My gut tells me she has a dinner date with someone else coz why would you check the time and why would you refuse a massage ?

I suspect I may have been FZ since I haven't fvcked her yet. But if I have why don't she tell me she got a date with another dude?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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If you don't have a mission, all your power goes to the woman.

Not good.

Have a mission, and they will orbit you.
 

dustmuffin

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if you are not in an ltr why do you care? TRy to f uck her. if it doesn't work out then move along.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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taiyuu_otoko

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But if I have why don't she tell me she got a date with another dude?
She didn't tell you because it's pretty hard for a non-sociopathic human to look at another human and say, "When I first met you I thought we might be romantically compatible, but now I'm no longer interested in you and not interested in spending any time with you."

Expecting this level of honesty from any normal human is like expecting your cat to speak to you in French.

But that's what she meant.

Next.
 

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Why does anyone lie about anything?

Because its easy and convenient. People are lazy. Also, just saying "I don't want to" isn't good enough for most people.
 

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im in the camp where it feels like you might be overthinking this one.....
 
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