"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Why women are attracted to guys who are a "challenge"

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that was a great post, backbreaker. It's good to get back to the basics and focus on what's REALLY happening with these female mammals.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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FutureSpartan said:
The whole "Challenge game" is overrated and a waste of time.
I cannot believe you think that. Not only is it very fun and exciting, but it doesn't just make women want you, it makes them NEED and LUST after you. I'm speaking from experience.
 

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However if you were to approach the group be friendly with them all but turn your attention towards the other chicks more and show some disinterest in the hb10 her mind will go crazy and she will be attracted to you
Girls do this same thing to me all the time. I know what they're up to though because it happens so often. I'm thinking most girls probably know this little game of disdain.

In order to seduce the HB10, you have to play the game better than she does. By doing this, she knows you get gamed alot and know how girls operate. You 'get it' so to speak.
 

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donjuan87 said:
I cannot believe you think that. Not only is it very fun and exciting, but it doesn't just make women want you, it makes them NEED and LUST after you. I'm speaking from experience.
Hell yeah that is so true man, i love it how girls feel like they have to be around me even when i'm just casually talking to some other girl. Then when i do give them some attention i love how receptive they are to it and when they least expect it i'm either showing no intrest in them or talking to someone else. This is just natural for me since whenever i get a girl intrested and i know she is intrested i start to pull away and make her lust for me. I plant the seed and give it time to blossom.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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If you're a good-looking guy, talk to the Black Sheep chic (the one who doesn't fit in). Talk about getting the insecure girls in a frenzy. They'll make faces at you like "I can't believe you're talking to her".

I've had HB10s literally get physical in trying to get my attention. I just blow it off and they change tactics and go after other guys.

I have to admit, that does get me a bit jealous, but always keep my DJ composure. I'm the prize. You got to bring it to the champ lol.
 

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An then there is a guy who is different. He doesn't even look at her. He just talks to her as a person and he isn't even trying to get in with her. He is trying to push her away. Her mind is thinking "WTF, a guy is pushing me away!? This is impossible every guy wants me."

It's also breaking rapport an causes sexual tension. Add that to a high value guy and when he uses the CLAW. Pretty deadly if you ask me.
Thats' true, women get hit on quite often especially by guys looking for easy *****. Women do go through some kind of trance where they auto ****-block a guy's attempts when they feel he isnt being sincere, the only exception is if she's uber horny.

But back to what you were saying about digging the guy that ignores her, it only really applies to a guy who she sees value in. Perhaps he's good looking, an excellent dresser, charismatic, has personality, or just as simple as the law of scarcity that she sees other women wanting to be in his presence increasing his overall value..

And all this goes back to being well-rounded - you're always better off than the guy who isnt. Simply put women are super analytical creatures, they know a good thing when they see one.
 

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And all this goes back to being well-rounded - you're always better off than the guy who isnt. Simply put women are super analytical creatures, they know a good thing when they see one.
Most do, but then they date how they *feel*. If she feels *slutty*, she won't be dating the successful business man unless she's a gold digger or getting paid. If she feels like a jizz bucket, she'll date the wild guys a week at a time here and there.

If she's a career woman, her standards are higher and gearing for the more educated male with goals. You won't find this type of girl dating a wild guy (not usually). She may 'slip' once and awhile and get nailed by a dude she wouldn't take home to mom, but all in the moment.
 

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Badmannaz said:
it's the same reason guys want girls who are challenging!
Guys want girls who are gorgeous to look at, we are like Tom Cats, we don't want a challenge, we want a fvck, get it as quickly as we can and move on to another gorgeous girl.
 

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It's called playing hard to get...
As well as keeping the girl challenged...
It is a response to the AFC train of thought.
To keep us on track and not AFC...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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backbreaker said:
i take that back.. we actually would talk. she would find me and ask me what did I want to drink, and have guys buy her drinks and find me and give them to me. I would go out and sometimes not have to buy anything.
Does she call up the elderly and swindle them of their life savings too?


Badmannaz said:
it's the same reason guys want girls who are challenging!
No I don't. I want to be doted upon by a quality female. When a girl is challenging and isn't actively seeking me out then i'm just annoyed and stop bothering. I just feel it's beneath me to chase her around. I have sh1t to do.
 

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Does she call up the elderly and swindle them of their life savings too?
At the time if I asked her to she probably would. However, i have money, I didn't NEED her to do that, I guess it was her way of showing me she was committed to me.. and I'm not going to argue with free drinks money or not.
 

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FutureSpartan said:
Don't be a pushover, but remember you're the MAN. You need to be aggressive, confident, and go after the girls you want. Trust me if the girl is interested in you, you don't need to be a challenge. Just get a good rapport going and then isolate.

yes, i agree. it all really boils down to attraction. if she dont like you then you could be as challenging as fort knox and still have her ignore you

but being a challenge is important. being a challenge just means not being a pushover. simple as that. it doesnt have to be the extreme stuff, like acting like you hate her and u wish she would go to hell. just dont be a pushover. be aggresive and go after the girls you want, but let them work too.
 

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2_intense2 said:
its just more fun and it keeps things interesting, plain and simple. Its all about the chase..so when you finally get the guy there is sense of accomplishment (i.e ) you were able to overcome the challenge.
also true

think of it this way

you get a nice new car that u didnt have to work for, but some guy just gave to you. and if it breaks you could easily get another no problem.

would u appreciate that?

or wat if you've been working hard all your life for the car that you wanted. then one day you got enough to go buy i right off the lot. you wont let anything happen to it because you worked to hard to get it.

i think you would appreciate that alot more.
 
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