why? why did I become an AFC? what went wrong?

[CrazyVatoLoco]

So im here bored tonight drinking myself and I was thinking about how I became the loser I am, I remember when I was a lil kid that most of my friends(and alot) were girls, suprised I didnt grow up gay! jk... and I wasnt shy at all(real opposite of what I am now)

im still sad that im a virgin still and that ive never had a female friend after hitting my teens and I pretty much have zero game

but how the hell did that changed after I hit middle school??? I wouldnt be sufferen if I kept going down the right path... damn, at least I know now how to get back on track, altought its hard work.

 

[david90]

I don't know why in your case but there are many possible reasons.

For me:
1. My parents didn't teach me how to be social. They don't want me to have friends.
2. I was teased in HS and I had very low self respect and esteem.

Aint life a *****.

 

[MrCode]

We all have had different lives and there are many different ways to becoming an AFC. But the biggest commonality we have is living in a society that is extremely femanized and negative toward men, which tends to make boys grow up as wussy AFCs instead of real men.

In many, many ways it isn't your fault. But the point I want to make is your past is irrelevant and you can't change it, so all you can do now is move forward and make the rest of your life a lot better.

Also, do not feel sorry for yourself, because you are only 17 and there are guys that go well into their 20s being AFCs and virgins, so you are actually making an early start!

Sh*t you are doing way better than me, but despite my even later start I'm doing pretty damn good these days. Believe me, there is light at the end of the tunnel!

 

[Ragin_Asian]

Man...when I was a lil kid in primary school (elementary) I was a lil dirty rat macking and hitting up girls (no kisses tho lol) I thought I was the king on the world. I couldn't give a f*ck about anythin else. I was even walking home girls 3 years my senior and everyone wanted to hang with me....

then BOOM...I migrated to a new life away from it all...cos my mother remarried and moved from Phillipines to Australia.

I became king AFC. My parents became over protective of me and didn't support socialising and didn't nurture my potential apart from schooling and staying out of trouble even if it meant making your balls obsolete. My stepdad resented everything I ever enjoyed doing, my passions, everything I stood for and things that made me happy. This was f*cked up cos I looked up to the bastard as if he was my real dad and internalised what he had to say. Rare these days. All his other sons are bums or junkies. Im surprised to even make it this far to college.

I also got bullied and taught never to make a stand to myself. I fought and fought for myself but eventually I was a watered down version of my true self.

Now, well out of my comfort zone, lies the journey which I should have done right from the word go. But hey theres no use b*tchin bout the past unless you're sharing it with someone else. I'd like to replace the saying "WHAT IF's" with "WHAT NOW's"

 

[SpeedRunner]

I didnt realize i was AFC until i was 18. i wish i knew earlier... atleast you know you have a problem. Thats the first step of recovery, my friend. Atleast you arent one of those hardcore AFC's.

 

[Ragin_Asian]

Damn straight there my friend...

Some of my friends are aggressive with women yet still very AFC...