Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
It's funny that the last bastions of masculine movie stars is Vin Diesel. Everyone else, including The Rock, are feminized as hell. I want to say Michael Jai White is an exception, too, but it's a stretch.Don't forget the power Hollywood has over society. There are few strong masculine role models in today's movies. The dialogue is geared to make men appear weak.
Gone are the days of Clint Eastwood, John Wayne, etc.
There is no real mystery here. A man is, to a large extent, the product of his environment. If the environment is tough, the man will become tough in order to survive. If the environment is safe, with no serious dangers or adversity, the man will grow soft.I was watching the show Deadliest Catch tonight on tv and a 55 year old deck hand injured his back but kept on working without complaining at all and that got me thinking about how generations seem to get weaker as time passes on. It seems like the older generations wouldnt complain and they were truly tough men.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
The big question is, is it moral to force men to become men again or is it less evil to let nature take its course? Is it moral to cause hard times or do hard times have to happen on their own? If weak men is all around us, is it okay for stronger men to come in and take over? That includes take all the women, take all the wealth, and take control.There is not real mystery here. A man is, to a large extent, a product of his environment. If the environment is tough, the man will become tough in order to survive. If the environment is safe, with no serious dangers or adversity, the man will grow soft. You can't think of a better example of this phenomenon than the Scandinavians. Modern Swedes, Norwegians and Danes are direct descendants of the Vikings, an extremely savage people who lived in an inhospitable land and were constantly at war with everyone (including each other). But today, the Scandinavian countries have a very high standard of living and a nanny state that is supposed care of everything. As a result, Nordic men have become weak and their society is now essentially a matriarchy. Same thing, to a slightly lesser extent, is happening in the U.S., Canada and most other western countries.
This is the paradox of success. We all want safety and comfort. And yet, those are the things that make us weak.