"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Why Tinder is so addictive

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Swiping left on a Tinder profile is the same as pulling the lever on a slot machine.

You might match, you might not. You might win, you might not.

And so the addictive brain chemical dopamine rises in your brain in anticipation for the win.

Its also the messages themselves.

Each positive reply from a potential sexual partner encourages a dopamine response in the man’s brain.

After facing a rejection or a non response, many men act like gambling addicts at the end of a losing streak. Anger. Frustration. Desperation.

When a girl stops replying, she’s not just rejecting the man. She’s also taking away his dopamine surges. And so the man will message her again and again, often not so much desperate for her as desperate for another hit of dopamine.

The value of the average woman is ARTIFICIALLY raised and the value of the average man is artificially lowered.

Online dating is where average men go to have their self-esteem destroyed.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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The entire dating app is a sales funnel into their premium service.


And you can be absolutely certain that their algorithms encourage people to end up paying.

How do they do this, well, it seems likely that it goes something like this:



  • The profiles of new users are made visible to a large number of people. An early success will suck new users into using the dating app for the long-term.
  • Overtime, the algorithms will gradually decrease the visibility of the user’s profile. As the user begins to get less and less attention, the “Boost” option begins to seem more and more attractive.
You can be sure that the vast majority of those paying for the premium service are men. In fact, this is the foundation of the business model of online dating.
 

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Swiping left on a Tinder profile is the same as pulling the lever on a slot machine.

You might match, you might not. You might win, you might not.

And so the addictive brain chemical dopamine rises in your brain in anticipation for the win.

Its also the messages themselves.

Each positive reply from a potential sexual partner encourages a dopamine response in the man’s brain.

After facing a rejection or a non response, many men act like gambling addicts at the end of a losing streak. Anger. Frustration. Desperation.

When a girl stops replying, she’s not just rejecting the man. She’s also taking away his dopamine surges. And so the man will message her again and again, often not so much desperate for her as desperate for another hit of dopamine.

The value of the average woman is ARTIFICIALLY raised and the value of the average man is artificially lowered.

Online dating is where average men go to have their self-esteem destroyed.
I find it boring. It's like looking at the same kinds of people over and over again. Random strangers that I'm never going to meet showing off their expensive handbags. Why would I care? If you do get a match then it's a boring conversation with a woman that expects to be entertained and often is just there to pass the time anyway with no intention of meeting up.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Modern Man Advice

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Swiping left on a Tinder profile is the same as pulling the lever on a slot machine.

You might match, you might not. You might win, you might not.

And so the addictive brain chemical dopamine rises in your brain in anticipation for the win.

Its also the messages themselves.

Each positive reply from a potential sexual partner encourages a dopamine response in the man’s brain.

After facing a rejection or a non response, many men act like gambling addicts at the end of a losing streak. Anger. Frustration. Desperation.

When a girl stops replying, she’s not just rejecting the man. She’s also taking away his dopamine surges. And so the man will message her again and again, often not so much desperate for her as desperate for another hit of dopamine.

The value of the average woman is ARTIFICIALLY raised and the value of the average man is artificially lowered.

Online dating is where average men go to have their self-esteem destroyed.
Solid! And we couldn't agree more.

Does OLD (Tinder) give you results? Of course. Does it mess with your mindset, confidence, and valuable time? We (Modern Man Advice) strongly believe so.

Anyways, thanks for sharing this and expressing your own opinion on Tinder.


Modern Man Advice
 

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I hate Tinder, i hate every single internet dating app/site. Its for losers only, real men approach girls in real life and we do not hide behind a screen like some incel.
 

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First time I ever heard someone refer to Tinder as addicting. I feel bad for people if they're addicted to Tinder , but I kinda get it. It's an easy way to pull girls and have sex with a variety of sluts who want nothing but a good time.
 

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I hate Tinder, i hate every single internet dating app/site. Its for losers only, real men approach girls in real life and we do not hide behind a screen like some incel.
The irony of us all hiding behind a screen as we read and type these messages.......
 

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Tinder, Facebook, twitter or anything with notifications are DESIGNED to be addictive. This is from the horse's mouth from one of the co-founders of facebook.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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