Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Why the hell do some chicks do a 180 on you after sex?

nismo-4

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I've had it happen a lot. I get the girl, I hit it, then the next time I speak to her, she's totally uninterested in me. WTF is going on here?

Any of you guys experienced this?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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AlexTheGreat

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Was the sex any good? Did you call her afterwards to not make her feel like a slut? What was your rapport with those chicks before sex?
 

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One reason is Buyer's Remorse, or that it was only meant to be an ONS.

She might also act uninterested to stop herself from developing feelings and turning it into a relationship, as it inconveniences her at the time.

I've had a couple of girls like that, who were going to go overseas for work/study for a year or so, and didn't want it to develop further, so they appeared cold towards me. However, when they came back home, they changed their attitude completely - getting in touch, checking whether I have a GF, if I'm still into them, acting jealous when I pay attention to other girls etc - because now they are in the right position to start a relationship. Except that I'm not always there for their convenience.
 

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Did you contact her right after? Or did you wait for her to contact you?
 

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The only times a girl hasn't wanted to be in AT LEAST a casual relationship with me after we've had sex was when the sex was pretty awful.. which hasn't happened since the after of 18.

Become an amazing lover, and she'll fall for you faster than she can take a ****.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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nismo-4

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Scars said:
Did you contact her right after? Or did you wait for her to contact you?
We met up a couple days later. But what would have been the better option?
 

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Perhaps I'm looking at this from the wrong perspective here, but who cares? As long as she's not pulling a 180 before sex it sounds like a pretty good deal. After sex, she might even be doing you a favor.
 

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I've heard people speak on this saying it's a way for insecure girls to see how you react and if you care, if it gets like that you mine as well just throw yourself out there and show some caring because if it doesn't work then it's over, unless she has friends you wanna get with.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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nismo-4 said:
Then why da hell did I get laid in the first place? BTW I didn't flash a Mercedes or a Rolex.
You can get laid on day one with a girl, that's usually what brings up these 180s. Cause rather then thinking about it then getting with you, there getting with you and then thinking about it.
 

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nismo-4 said:
Then why da hell did I get laid in the first place? BTW I didn't flash a Mercedes or a Rolex.
then she was just looking for a one night stand.
 
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