"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Why should we be intimidated by girls?

jeffthechef

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Lots of people are posting questions on whether/how/when/where they should go about getting a girl.
I did too, but we must question what is inhibiting us from obtaniing that ALPHA disposition/philosophy and simply gaming every girl we have one infinitesimal amount of interest in?
Here's a list of things that prevented me previously.

1. Fear of rejection.
2. Fear of what other people around me might be thinking as i game a girl.

Number one wasn't so big. Number two was. To obtain the ALPHA philosophy, which would consequently destroy any fears, we could think the Buddhist way.
Non-attached attachment, nothingness, and the realization of the self and others.

Consider this:
1. Do we all really exist? Skipping over the lengthy and detailed argument, yes we do. We know death is imminent; thus, we know we are living currently.

2. How do we exist? Simply as the imitations of others and through the connections we share with everyone.

3. What leads to suffering? Attachment. Obssession.

4. Should we have a **** it all attitude since we're all essentially nothing?
No, because you'll prolly do something completely dumb.

5. Should we overanalyze every little ****ty thing? No. Humans have spidey senses; however, most humans don't practice and train this ability. If you go out and game girls often, you'll be able to sense the attraction, which prevents you from having to look for IOI's. This is of course if you're trained and not naive.

6. Do we really have spidey senses? Yes, we do. Humans also exist through the interconnectedness of personal desire. This desire is a sort of spirit and will. We dominate/destroy/own objects to exert our will and dominance over it. This proves our individuality to ourselves and others giving us a sense of self. Two humans, both with desire, stranded in a desert find a peanut butter sandwich. Human number one realizes that human number two wants it as much as he does because they realize each other's individuality. One will eventually get it, while the other has to succumb to the ALPHA's will. So why doesn't one of them think about sharing it? Because he cannot risk going about this situation softly, it is a life and death struggle. However, after one gets the sandwich, he will share part of it. But why is he willing ot share it now? Because he already knows that his dominance is known by the defeated. Same with women. We think, "She wants me." or "She's not interested."
She is also thinking, "He wants me." or "He thinks i'm ugly."
This is because we already know we are attracted to them or not attracted, thus we realize the other must be thinking it too. Sex is one the main aspects of human life and has been since the cavemen. Once we realize they are thinking it too. We must approach the girl and find out for sure whether she's interested or not. Based on this experiment, you can begin to draw observations and a feel for what's going on. After numerous experiments, you become a professional and thus need not the AFC fears to impede you.

You may not agree...That's fine.
You may not understand...Ask.

If you have any other fears, post em so we can figure out the solution.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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lil hooligan

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is it true that regret is worse that rejection
 

jeffthechef

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both are equally bad..
think about it..
Regret coming from not asking a girl out or approaching comes from attachment to that girl. Why should you be hurt by someone you never even loved?

Rejection hurts only when you are attached too..Why again should you be hurt by someone you weren't in love with?

ATTACHMENT=SUFFERING

Even when married. You should avoid attachment. Love and attachment are two completely different and distinct things. This is not to say that if your wife died you should not be sad. The thing is you should eventually move on. You have to realize that attachment is obsession with something. To rid yourself of attachment, one thing you could do is realize that nothing persists throughout time without change. EVERYTHING/EVERYONE CHANGES. For example, let's say you had a friend in elementary school named timmy. you coincidentally meet him at a seminar for the sexually challenged. That little timmy is not the same little timmy you knew from a long time. As much as you wish, he isn't. This also had to do with what is self.

The western perception of self deals with self using soul. Descartes mostly. Western philosophy believes self is not the body nor the mind. It is a neverchanging entity that resides in a person, soul. I'm not denying there is a soul.
The Buddhists take it as, there is a soul, but that soul is not the same throughout time. It is always changing.

So back to your question. Pain from regret and rejection are equally bad because they show attachment. Especially attachment that is not legitimate. You were never in love so why feel hurt? Don't get attached to girls or anything. It leads to suffering. Take things as they are and realize everything is always changing.

Hope that helped if not jsut ask.
 
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