"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Why "pick up" techniques are futile in the US

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This post is brilliant and says it all:

http://www.happierabroad.com/phpBB2/viewtopic.php?t=19

I always hated the idea of having to learn PUA techniques just to get dates and companionship. Even though the behavior of many American women disgusts me, I don't want to play manipulative games and cause needless suffering.

There seem to be precious few options for American guys.

1. Bars and clubs are horrible places to meet girlfriends, they're only really good for one night stand type deals, which can result in emotional harm to both partners, which leads me to my point 2.

2. Being upfront with a girl and telling her you're only interested in no-strings attached, one night type deals is likely to turn many of them off.

3. Approaching people in public is frowned upon.

4. Even people who share your interests, whether meet over the internet or at social functions, may be extremely obese or have emotional imbalances which render them unsuitable partners.

4. Getting married (if you're a man) carries with it the very real risk of losing your children and savings, along with enduring all other sorts of heartache.

5. Telling you're girlfriend you don't want to get married in America is likely to sour the relationship.

6. People eventually growing apart in their romances is to be expected, but outright dumping and shunning someone with whom you shared deep moments to me seems cold-hearted and neurotic, and this frequently happens with relationships in the U.S.

Taking into account the former points, all you are then left with is:

7. Becoming a PUA
8. Getting really, really rich
9. Only seeing prostitues
10. Masturbating to porn, which is about as satisfying as recieving single drops of water when you're in a parched desert. It helps somewhat with the immediate need, but still leaves you feeling starved and empy.
11. Celibacy (which can cause imbalance unless one fully chooses it as an adjunct to some sort of meditative or religious path)

I'm really happy I found this site, travelling to Europe is now one of my dreams. Thanks Winston!
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Approaching people in public may be frowned upon, but isolate if you can, and who gives a f*ck what others think anyway. If you want real partners, try going to a church or a club or a political group that you agree with.

Tell the girl you're willing to marry but you require a prenupt. (Or maybe find one who makes more money than you.)
 

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1. No emotional harm to you, if you're clubbing you're not getting attached to club rats.

2. Cavemanning often works, and you don't have to be upfront, you can game her.

3. No it's not, no one actually cares.

4. Avoid fat chicks

4 (again). Sign a pre-nup, look for a good wife, or don't get married.

5. Then get married in America or find another girlfriend.

6. Welcome to the world. European relationships in the 18-24 age groups aren't like marriages, people cheat and break up all the time.

Taking into account the former points, all you are then left with is:

7. Not a bad thing
8. Also not a bad thing
9. Why not just get gold-diggers with your money from #8?
10. Beating off never makes me feel starved or empty
11. Hi Luke.
 
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