"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Why people no more replying to emails or texts(what is the message behinde that ) ?

evan12

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jun 2, 2012
Messages
1,371
Reaction score
313
So I noticed there is a new trend (maybe not new for others ) that people don't respond to the text communication unless the answer is "VERY" required and if they do respond the answer usually is the minimum and abstract (no friendly or emotional words ) .

In my opinion people trying to strip the messages from any emotions that it might carry to the receiver, they only want abstract messages and that apply even for friends and men.but why ?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

Read more...

RangerMIke

Master Don Juan
Joined
Nov 23, 2014
Messages
4,766
Reaction score
7,985
Location
USA, Louisiana
I never text... I freaking hate it. I get slammed with text messages all the time and really don't have the time to respond to everything.

I really don't think this "trend" is anymore than people just getting sick of over texting.
 

Who Dares Win

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 16, 2012
Messages
7,426
Reaction score
5,803
People attention is a precious resource in the digital era, you cant expect to have as much as you were used to in the 90s.

Honestly I like more texting than calling for that same reason, a call requires you to cease your activity and focus on that, a text allows you to send your message and get an answer when the other person is ready while at the same time allowing you to read when you want and reply when you want.

Also dont forget that when you receive and send 50 texts a day is nothing special, cant expect the same attention compared to 1999 when you just had that and you probably got 2 or 3.

Our attention span is limited, the more attempt to access it, the more it has to be divided.
 
Top