tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Bigfoot, women want a sensitive jerk .. think that is a good way to sum it up. Women want to see a little 'edge' or testosterone, but also want a sensitive guy who listens and cares for people.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"Why Nice Guys Fail with Women"
- Thread starter BigFoot
- Start date
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
penkitten
Master Don Juan
very well put :cheer:
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
Thanks .. i got it from articles written by women - lol! Who says women don't give good advice for attraction?
penkitten
Master Don Juan
wasnt me since i am a woman hahaha
tmpgstx
Master Don Juan
One woman said that women generally want to see a little bit of a 'pitbull' in their guy.
Another woman was explaining attraction and why women often go for guys that are jerks syndrome. She said many are jerks, but show enough sensitivity and generally care for other people. She called them sensitive bastards.
I think it's just mainly important not to be a doormat. You can be nice, but don't let anyone take advantage of you.
Another woman was explaining attraction and why women often go for guys that are jerks syndrome. She said many are jerks, but show enough sensitivity and generally care for other people. She called them sensitive bastards.
I think it's just mainly important not to be a doormat. You can be nice, but don't let anyone take advantage of you.
“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”
Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.
I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.
Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules. Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.
Cheat_LBJ
Don Juan
It only is valid with respect to how he goes about dealing with women.
I know plenty of guys who are real characters, treat other people like crap, always about "what's in it for me," etc. But when it comes to women, they immediately switch over to 'anything for you' mode.
The hardest piece of programming to overcome for most AFCs (including myself) is the old lesson your mother beat into you that you should treat women with respect.
THAT is the great lie we are all raised with. Women respond most favorably to being treated like they are nothing special. The minute they know you've put them on a pedestal, they move on, because they have nothing to prove to themselves regarding you. They already have you.
-CLBJ
That's how i see it. It's not about "aiming for jerk-like", it's about "moving away from being a doormat/pushover"
I'm lucky that my mother was fairly neutral on this. She pro-her-children. E.g. she expects my sister's boyfriend to do things for her, but if i were busy with something and i was seeing someone and they wanted me for something, it's "no, don't drop everything for her".
Look what this AFC wrote on the subject! This is the problem with society and it's views on gender roles when it applies to dating.
"So what is a nice guy? Well nice guys are romantics with lyrical souls. Nice guys are generally over looked due to the lack of bulging muscles or fast cars. Nice guys won't pretend to be romantic just to get you into the sack. Nice guys are shy, that's right shy, they may go talk to you but won't ask for your number due to the lack of self esteem that history has given them. You definitely won't see a nice guy whistling at you in the mall."
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This guy goes on and on.. I had to stop reading and look for a bucket to puke in.
http://www.realpics.net/view.article.php?article_id=41
"So what is a nice guy? Well nice guys are romantics with lyrical souls. Nice guys are generally over looked due to the lack of bulging muscles or fast cars. Nice guys won't pretend to be romantic just to get you into the sack. Nice guys are shy, that's right shy, they may go talk to you but won't ask for your number due to the lack of self esteem that history has given them. You definitely won't see a nice guy whistling at you in the mall."
:crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup: :crackup:
This guy goes on and on.. I had to stop reading and look for a bucket to puke in.
http://www.realpics.net/view.article.php?article_id=41
Good LORD. Could this guy embody the essence of a complete wussbag any more? This is the kind of blog a 20-something virgin would post--"I'm going to pity my way into your pretty little panties."
What's worse is some women left comments at the bottom of the article, gushing about it and hence reinforcing this kind of thought process.
Poor guy--he's gonna think he's on the right track.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Oh, and I like this comment that some girl left:
That's old news, I know--but it's worth repeating after reading all that schlock.
A perfect reminder of why we need to pay attention to what women DO, and not what they SAY.
That's old news, I know--but it's worth repeating after reading all that schlock.