CornbreadFed
Master Don Juan
We fall into the trap of pretending all women and all dating environments are the same. There are objective elements to dating, but most advice ignores the subjective realities that matter just as much. When you focus only on objective rules and ignore context, you cap yourself at mid SMV results at best.
1) Not all women are the same and not all men are dating the same women
This gets ignored constantly. There are solid posters everywhere, but we all differ in age, lifestyle, ethnicity, location, and social circles. What works for one guy often will not work for another because
A) the men themselves are different
B) they are pursuing completely different types of women
Treating dating like a one size fits all equation is lazy thinking.
2) Learn from men similar to you and from the women you actually want
This is why social circle game works long term. You are around men like you, competing in the same environment, and interacting with the same type of women. That creates feedback and strategy.
Lone wolves do not have that. They have no real strategy and are just throwing things at the wall and hoping something sticks.
If you are an Asian guy who wants preppy white women, your blueprint should come from Asian men who are successfully dating those women. Not from a 6 foot 5 black guy or Chadwick whose dating pool, optics, and leverage are completely different. Different inputs lead to different outcomes. It doesn’t have to be an exact copy of yourself, but at least someone that mimics your approach and game style.
3) Identify your target market and stop fighting reality
The hardest pill for most men to swallow is that you cannot pull every type of woman consistently.
I was primarily attracted to white women because of how I grew up. I could get them, but it was inconsistent with long dry spells in between. When I shifted toward Latinas and Asian women, everything became easier. Consistency went up, stress went down, and my confidence followed.
That is what successful men are actually doing. They understand their strengths, identify their market, and optimize for it.
Unsuccessful men try to brute force outcomes they are not built for and call it principle or grind. That is not confidence. That is delusion.
4) End goals and long term intent
You need to be honest about what you actually want in two months, one year, five years, ten years, and twenty years. Are you trying to solve a short term problem or build a long term outcome.
Are you having trouble with one specific girl. Are you trying to get into a long term relationship right now. Do you eventually want marriage. Do you want to remain a permanent bachelor. Or do you simply want sex.
Each of these goals requires a completely different strategy, timeline, and set of tradeoffs. The issue is that most men are afraid to confront this honestly. Instead, they default to generic alpha male advice or get rich quick dating content that promises unrealistic outcomes like sleeping with thirty women by the end of the month.
That advice is not built for sustainability or alignment. It just creates confusion, wasted time, and men chasing outcomes they do not even want long term.
1) Not all women are the same and not all men are dating the same women
This gets ignored constantly. There are solid posters everywhere, but we all differ in age, lifestyle, ethnicity, location, and social circles. What works for one guy often will not work for another because
A) the men themselves are different
B) they are pursuing completely different types of women
Treating dating like a one size fits all equation is lazy thinking.
2) Learn from men similar to you and from the women you actually want
This is why social circle game works long term. You are around men like you, competing in the same environment, and interacting with the same type of women. That creates feedback and strategy.
Lone wolves do not have that. They have no real strategy and are just throwing things at the wall and hoping something sticks.
If you are an Asian guy who wants preppy white women, your blueprint should come from Asian men who are successfully dating those women. Not from a 6 foot 5 black guy or Chadwick whose dating pool, optics, and leverage are completely different. Different inputs lead to different outcomes. It doesn’t have to be an exact copy of yourself, but at least someone that mimics your approach and game style.
3) Identify your target market and stop fighting reality
The hardest pill for most men to swallow is that you cannot pull every type of woman consistently.
I was primarily attracted to white women because of how I grew up. I could get them, but it was inconsistent with long dry spells in between. When I shifted toward Latinas and Asian women, everything became easier. Consistency went up, stress went down, and my confidence followed.
That is what successful men are actually doing. They understand their strengths, identify their market, and optimize for it.
Unsuccessful men try to brute force outcomes they are not built for and call it principle or grind. That is not confidence. That is delusion.
4) End goals and long term intent
You need to be honest about what you actually want in two months, one year, five years, ten years, and twenty years. Are you trying to solve a short term problem or build a long term outcome.
Are you having trouble with one specific girl. Are you trying to get into a long term relationship right now. Do you eventually want marriage. Do you want to remain a permanent bachelor. Or do you simply want sex.
Each of these goals requires a completely different strategy, timeline, and set of tradeoffs. The issue is that most men are afraid to confront this honestly. Instead, they default to generic alpha male advice or get rich quick dating content that promises unrealistic outcomes like sleeping with thirty women by the end of the month.
That advice is not built for sustainability or alignment. It just creates confusion, wasted time, and men chasing outcomes they do not even want long term.
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