In todays time, men are given confusing and contradictory advice. Socially, they are expected to be "compliant" (i.e. cooperative) partners to women. However, they are also urged by women's sexual interest to maintain an "attractive personality" (i.e. assertive and ambitious). Unfortunately, men sometimes will say that attempting to balance these notions does not result in satisfaction, happiness, or women's appreciation and respect.
Most men feel like there in a lose-lose situation in the dating world.
If they follow what society tells them to do, they often end up "good guys" who are taken advantage of, mistreated, and disrespected. In contrast, if they follow more "assertive" biological imperatives, they are labeled "jerks" and "players"—who may get sexual gratification, but not love or respect from what they would consider a "good woman". Overall, men often feel little incentive for them to date and even less for them to consider long-term commitments.
If men choose to follow social norms and become compliant aka "good guys", they may get a "relationship partner". However, due to women's social vs. biological bind,
these compliant men may also not be "attractive" to those same relationship partners. As a result, they may be punished by their girlfriend's/wife's lack of sexual interest, being cheated on, or disrespected as a "push over". These men may further be regarded as "just friends"—expected to pay for all of the costs of a relationship, without the physical and intimate benefits
Guys must find the proper balance in order to find true success with women.
Just being a nice guy alone is not attractive but if you have the biological attractive traits women are naturally attracted to(Masculinity, dominance, assertiveness, strength, ect) plus having a balance of niceness sprinkled in there then you will be surprised at how things will change for you in this cutthroat dating world.
Most men feel like there in a lose-lose situation in the dating world.
If they follow what society tells them to do, they often end up "good guys" who are taken advantage of, mistreated, and disrespected. In contrast, if they follow more "assertive" biological imperatives, they are labeled "jerks" and "players"—who may get sexual gratification, but not love or respect from what they would consider a "good woman". Overall, men often feel little incentive for them to date and even less for them to consider long-term commitments.
If men choose to follow social norms and become compliant aka "good guys", they may get a "relationship partner". However, due to women's social vs. biological bind,
these compliant men may also not be "attractive" to those same relationship partners. As a result, they may be punished by their girlfriend's/wife's lack of sexual interest, being cheated on, or disrespected as a "push over". These men may further be regarded as "just friends"—expected to pay for all of the costs of a relationship, without the physical and intimate benefits
Guys must find the proper balance in order to find true success with women.
Just being a nice guy alone is not attractive but if you have the biological attractive traits women are naturally attracted to(Masculinity, dominance, assertiveness, strength, ect) plus having a balance of niceness sprinkled in there then you will be surprised at how things will change for you in this cutthroat dating world.
