Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
:yes: I've seen women who were *****es just about everyone except thier guy because they saw him as valuable. It was like night and day when the guy was with them or not.Mavrick said:A woman is a b1tch to a man when she sees herself as better than her mate. Once he has placed more value on her and her actions instead on his self, they become an abusive b1tch who believes they're doing the man a favor by being with him.
Well, yes and no. The worst kind of bit*ch/woman is a liberated one, who thinks that Females are Superior to males, and is ****y. Those kind of women, I take a great, great joy out of reminding them that they are the weaker sex, and they are the ones who bleed once a month, get impregnated by males, and get buggered on occasion.IPalindromeI said:In the book, the b*tch part stands for : Babe in total control of herself. Not - an angry woman looking to cut your b*lls off and put them in her purse.
The message is pretty straightforward: it basically says that men do not want overly jealous, insecure, needy emotional vampires who have no life of their own except yours. They want women who are confident in themselves, have a life of their own that they want to share with you, not jealous, needy or insecure. It instructs women on how to become women worth pursuing, not women that you have to peel off of you in order to get rid of them.
Not too far off from what you find here, really. Only geared for women. Confident women are just as appealing as confident men, wouldn't you say?
Now that makes sense. That is more in line with what that book tries to teach women. You can't walk along side someone if you aren't strong enough to do so. It teaches that strength, not the man-bashing stuff that passes for strength.I want one walking at my side.