AureliusMaximus
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Welp.. I stumbled across this video...
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why men are happier than women in the 40ties and above...
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Men don’t look back over a life of regret when they enter their late 30’s 40’s like women do. Women have their whole lives ahead of them in their teens and 20’s, and sometimes even into their 30’s and most squander it. Men however get better with age and learn form past experiences and become overall happier as they get more successful as they age.
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"Men age like fine wine, whereas women age like milk"
Women past the wall believing they are still desirable, even thinking they are 7's, 8's, 9's , 10's = delusional.
Women past the wall believing they are still desirable, even thinking they are 7's, 8's, 9's , 10's = delusional.
Yes
This mirage will still go on as long as there are weak thirsty simps out there validating and giving these women attention unfortunately...
But the smart ones will eventually figure this mirage out the older they get.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Machine10033
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Girl that was a couple of years ahead of me in highschool was a 10... smoking... did modeling. She was also got around with a ton of guys... attention wh0re. If you go to get Facebook page when she was younger every selfie she posted had hundreds of comments “ gorgeous”, “stunning”, “sexy”.... on and on with simps! Now that she’s in her 40’s... she’s still an attention wh0re... but all her pics get a few likes.... usually her relatives now and her girlfriends.... In her 40’s the sun is setting... if not down !
AureliusMaximus
Master Don Juan
If not the internet miraculously implodes by itself or some hacker blows it up, (Which never will happen); that behavior is here to stay forever. It's the new paradigm and reality which we all need to adjust to it because it won't go away.
wifehunter
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Beauty is fleeting.
Mike32ct
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Everybody ages, but men typically have better (and more extensive) copes than women do.
Work, hobbies, investing etc vs get some cats (or a dog) and join a book club.
Work, hobbies, investing etc vs get some cats (or a dog) and join a book club.
BeExcellent
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Advice from the old lady:
Now I realize I’m an outlier...but I’m having a blast in my 50s. A straight up blast. Obviously it won’t be like this forever, but that’s Ok. My friends, men I date, and I all have been there done that on the marriage & kids thing, everybody has money and life experience and I’m surrounded by my children, who are well adjusted, and a seriously cool circle of friends that are fun & adventurous and supportive.
Its cool to take a trip for the weekend to hang with a friend (male or female) and enjoy their company. I have a great life & am really blessed & spoiled in many ways.
In the next 6-12 months I’m going to Hawaii to see a player buddy of mine and his gf (I introduced them), to Hong Kong to see my best high school girlfriend & her hubby of almost 30 years, to Austin, to Vegas, and once they open back up to NYC, LA and San Diego.
I’ll also go to VA Beach to see an old ex lover & how his restaurants are doing there. We’ve known each other 30 years this year and I trust him with my life.
So I cannot complain. Life is rich and full of joy. And the people I run with feel the same way, men and women...
The man I’m seeing is recently divorced and he’s like Wow. I should’ve done this 10 years ago...He always has a giant smile on his face & he tells me his friends & clients are like “What’s gotten into you?...You’re happy!!!”
He’s like Yes. Yes I am. Lmao.
Now I realize I’m an outlier...but I’m having a blast in my 50s. A straight up blast. Obviously it won’t be like this forever, but that’s Ok. My friends, men I date, and I all have been there done that on the marriage & kids thing, everybody has money and life experience and I’m surrounded by my children, who are well adjusted, and a seriously cool circle of friends that are fun & adventurous and supportive.
Its cool to take a trip for the weekend to hang with a friend (male or female) and enjoy their company. I have a great life & am really blessed & spoiled in many ways.
In the next 6-12 months I’m going to Hawaii to see a player buddy of mine and his gf (I introduced them), to Hong Kong to see my best high school girlfriend & her hubby of almost 30 years, to Austin, to Vegas, and once they open back up to NYC, LA and San Diego.
I’ll also go to VA Beach to see an old ex lover & how his restaurants are doing there. We’ve known each other 30 years this year and I trust him with my life.
So I cannot complain. Life is rich and full of joy. And the people I run with feel the same way, men and women...
The man I’m seeing is recently divorced and he’s like Wow. I should’ve done this 10 years ago...He always has a giant smile on his face & he tells me his friends & clients are like “What’s gotten into you?...You’re happy!!!”
He’s like Yes. Yes I am. Lmao.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.