Why Marriage Has Become a Raw Deal for Men

[MatureDJ]

http://menforjustice.net/cms/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=22&Itemid=49

 

[Colossus]

Interesting site. The only other one ive come across (other than SS) is nomarriage.com. That site seemed to be a bunch of disorganized ranting and raving.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

This is a pretty well known quantity by now isn't it?

For what it's worth the author does a lot of bellyaching about things that are the mans job to deal with, whereas I think he(we) should more worry about women not carrying their portion. I have no issue earning for "us", but there is a list of things *she* is supposed to do as well, and she'd better be wiling to do them.

Yep, a typical BMW (b1tch, moaner & winer) other than the very last line. "Brothers, chose wisely ?" Yeah, what's the deal with ending that statement with a question mark?

 

[azanon]

50% of marriages end in divorce, yet way beyond 50% of the total women I actually know aren't worth marrying. Why give marraige the black eye because there are a bunch of clueless men out there who can't distinguish blatently, obviously poor marriage material women from good ones?

>The article implied the man's credit would be damaged if the payments on a loan in her name obtained before the marriage wasn't continued after the marriage. This is 100% incorrect. Marriage is a non-issue when it comes to liability of debts, loans, and credit scores. If a particular account is specficially in one person's name only (marriage or not), then only that person's credit score is potentially affected should that account become delinquent.

>What kills me about these articles is that they never address how the wife is damaged if the man doesn't pull his weight in some fashion after the marriage. There are A LOT of deadbeat men, deadbeat in many areas of their life, out there. I know many of them, and unfortuantely have several of them in my family and extended (by marriage) family. Maybe 70% of divorces are initiated by women because 70% of the time, the loser is the man. This is roughly the percent of times the man is the loser in one of my favorite shows, Judge Judy. Maybe her staff is intentionally picking the ones with the men being the loser..... but I doubt it.

The going drama in my family now is one guy who married my 1st cousin, knocked her up, then divorced her.... later made up to her and remarried her, knocked her up again, then left her again for another woman. Now she's stuck with 2 of his kids and an (unpaid for) house that was bought with both of their salaries in mind. But this article would have you to believe that he is the victim???? What chance does she have of attracting a different man worth keeping with 2 kids?

If you're looking for an unbiased opinion on this topic, I suspect you probably won't find it on a website entitled "Men Going their Own Way".

 

[bsthatcher]

I suspect you won't find it in azanon either, a hawty lad who thinks he's superior to at least 70% of his fellow men.

 

[dietzcoi]

Azanon

I agree with all you said except for one issue: Why did your cousin HAVE to get pregnant from this idiot twice? You act like she had no choice and was too stupid to understand the guy was a loser.'

Sorry I cannot get too sympathetic about women who get pregnant when they really shouldn't. They just don't think.. and the ones who suffer are the kids.

Dietzcoi

 

[MR_PERFECT]

After a quick search this is what I found on divorce stats..for what ever its worth

http://www.truthorfiction.com/rumors/d/divorce.htm

I think the site's information is false, the divorce rate is much higher and that's not taking into account the unhappily married. Just looking at my immediate family and coworkers over 30, the stats are a lot bleaker than you think.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

I think the site's information is false, the divorce rate is much higher and that's not taking into account the unhappily married. Just looking at my immediate family and coworkers over 30, the stats are a lot bleaker than you think.

Yeah, I wouldn't use a site like that for statistics. "Marriages have a 50/50 chance of working!" No sh1t Sherlock, they either work, or they don't! There's nothing else that could happen, DUH!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah, I wouldn't use a site like that for statistics. "Marriages have a 50/50 chance of working!" No sh1t Sherlock, they either work, or they don't! There's nothing else that could happen, DUH!

HAHAHAHAHA

 

[Adam007]

This writing seeks to educate men about the realities of what he may be getting himself into when he marries. An informed decision is less likely to be one that is later regretted. The intent is not to dissuade men from marrying, but to encourage them in communicating frankly their concerns and expectations of marriage with their potential spouses. The aim of this writing is to also enlighten women with some of the reasons why increasing numbers of successful eligible unmarried men, who otherwise prefer monogamous long-term relationships, are turning their backs on marriage.

Society automatically paints a stereotype on men who hesitate, delay, or elect not to marry. They are labelled as:
a) womanizers who are unable to participate in a long term relationship, or
b) Selfish/childish/irresponsible men who can not take care of themselves or another person.
No other explanation is ever explored.

 

[romangod]

Society automatically paints a stereotype on men who hesitate, delay, or elect not to marry. They are labelled as:
a) womanizers who are unable to participate in a long term relationship, or
b) Selfish/childish/irresponsible men who can not take care of themselves or another person.
No other explanation is ever explored.

c) enlightened men who are aware of the legal and psychological torture which they have no control over and prefer to take another route on life's increasingly difficult journey.


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[Francisco d'Anconia]

...Society automatically paints a stereotype on men who hesitate, delay, or elect not to marry. They are labelled as:
a) womanizers who are unable to participate in a long term relationship, or
b) Selfish/childish/irresponsible men who can not take care of themselves or another person.
No other explanation is ever explored.

People put way too much weight on what "society" thinks. Society is messed up as a whole. Look at the statistics that are referenced, they're based on society. Why worry about what a group of people who's lives are generally screwed up think about how you live your lives? They are more than likely in the state they are in because they were worried about what society felt about them.

 

[MacAvoy]

I suspect you won't find it in azanon either, a hawty lad who thinks he's superior to at least 70% of his fellow men.

You don't think your better than at least 70% of your fellow men? I feel sorry for you brother. Why wouldn't you want to be in the top percentile?