"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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why makeing them chase, works.

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Its very simple, if you do not give them the attention they want, they will try and win your attention, they will go out of there way to try and get it. For one, they feel frustrated but on the most part, the fact that they are trying to make you like them, makes them like you!

It is like the story where the man was hanging of the edge of the cliff and god said "let go and i will save you" you basicly need to be willing to loose the girl, to get her.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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True, good point. But you must remember to demonstrate value first.
 

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WesCottII said:
True, good point. But you must remember to demonstrate value first.
Yeah, with out value, you have nothing, value is best demonstrated with out too much attention on 'just her' For you to not pay much attention to her, you have to be willing to let her go, which is easier said then done, this is why you need to have sevral options.
 

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so true. the more the moose leaves the trail, the more the hunter chases.
whats always this bs with men always pursuing women. women are the ones who know the first five minutes if they'll sleep with you. value is essiential, but every girl is different in what they value.

basically if you give to much at first, it comes off as desperate. stay cool.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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what if

The girl is making the effort in the first place (and she is hot and all the stuff you like in a girl). Is it prudent to follow this?
 

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Sure, there can be mutual effort from both sides, and things will work, this is how it ussualy happens. But have you never tryed chaseing a girl that does not like you, have you noticed how infatuated you start to feel.
 

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Keep in kind fellas... this only works if she's attracted you already... but so true.
 

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Indeed, its also far more fun to watch. Remember though, leave a trail for her to follow, if there is no trail, there is no chase.
 

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Bloke said:
Keep in kind fellas... this only works if she's attracted you already... but so true.
Yes, but what i was showing originaly is that talking to a girl has nothing to do with attraction, spending time with a girl is how a girl that is attracted to you will fall in love with you, but like i said before, you here girls saying they fancy a certain guy yet they have never spoken to him.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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