JohnyTheArrow
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yup, it is the same guy, from omega to alpha (he is rock star now)
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That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
That can't be the same guy. Is that a fake picture? come on.yup, it is the same guy, from omega to alpha (he is rock star now)
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
This is how I feel about it to, different taste, some dudes think Kim K is hot, some think she is average, some think she is ugly.....and this is not just Kim K, Megan Fox.....ETC. using famous people so we know who we talking about. You won't be a 9 or 8 or 7 to every girl. It will vary widly.....one more thing about looks...
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. or whatever that quote is. you might be a model to one girl, and the next girl will think you're a damned hobo.
so i say, don't get too caught up in the looks department. YES, properly groom and take care of yourself, try to look your very best, but don't get too crazed
over your looks. you're born with whatever you're given, so just take the best care of yourself as you can and you should at the very least look decent.
there are guys out there that can be the best of the best looking and still get shot down. you still need to know how to be able to attract a girl. it isn't all about looks. YES, you need to look good. You can't look like a bearded up and pimpled glasses freak who's a fat ass that eats nothing but potato chips and expect to pull all the coochie. But at the same time, if you think it's all look; then you're wrong. I've never seen a girl who's immediately dropped her panties at the first sight of seeing a physically attractive man, unless she's a hoe.
Looks get your foot in the door, and your knowledge and experience of how to attract the woman gets you fully inside.
don't stress your looks... even if you did want to look any "Better" than you think you are every girl has a different opinion. i think some girls are butt ass ugly, while some of my friends might think a girl is drop dead gorgeous and vice versa.
anywho, just take care of yourself and dont stress your looks too much. you should be fine as long as you keep improving yourself and not only focus on trying to LOOK better, but how to ATTRACT women better.
looks & game go hand in hand. it's 50 and 50 if you ask me, in some cases it might be different, but mostly this is how i see it.
all looks will do is get your foot thru the door. get inside fully with your game.
Spot on.one more thing about looks...
beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. or whatever that quote is. you might be a model to one girl, and the next girl will think you're a damned hobo.
so i say, don't get too caught up in the looks department. YES, properly groom and take care of yourself, try to look your very best, but don't get too crazed
over your looks. you're born with whatever you're given, so just take the best care of yourself as you can and you should at the very least look decent.
there are guys out there that can be the best of the best looking and still get shot down. you still need to know how to be able to attract a girl. it isn't all about looks. YES, you need to look good. You can't look like a bearded up and pimpled glasses freak who's a fat ass that eats nothing but potato chips and expect to pull all the coochie. But at the same time, if you think it's all look; then you're wrong. I've never seen a girl who's immediately dropped her panties at the first sight of seeing a physically attractive man, unless she's a hoe.
Looks get your foot in the door, and your knowledge and experience of how to attract the woman gets you fully inside.
don't stress your looks... even if you did want to look any "Better" than you think you are every girl has a different opinion. i think some girls are butt ass ugly, while some of my friends might think a girl is drop dead gorgeous and vice versa.
anywho, just take care of yourself and dont stress your looks too much. you should be fine as long as you keep improving yourself and not only focus on trying to LOOK better, but how to ATTRACT women better.
looks & game go hand in hand. it's 50 and 50 if you ask me, in some cases it might be different, but mostly this is how i see it.
all looks will do is get your foot thru the door. get inside fully with your game.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You have a point and it goes both ways, the sheep mentality of women and their desired to belong to a group play a role in their choice of partner.How bout looks vs appearance? You may not necessarily be good looking, but you can establish a "certain look" and pull hot women that are attracted to guys that fit within the niche appearance they're looking for. For example, hipster, rocker, thug, or Mr. GQ. For instance, I'm not good looking, but I had long hair at one time and women would hit on me because they thought I was in a band or a pro wrestler.
And science proves you are right but its mostly about SMV.Its important to note many people are married or in LTR but it doesnt mean they are happy there, most women stay in LTRs/marriage because of male providing for the family, but when money isnt crucial (alimony,goverment help) women are very likely to divorce a male because he was never good enough but he was 'lesser evil'.Women see their SMV mostly as much higher, this space between her perceived value and reality is what causing breakup/divorce tsunami (skip to 11:20)Lets play the dating game....
Forgive me for being a bit cynical. I only speak from observation - but I DO observe plenty of successful relationships and they usually involve people who are equal in terms of looks, upbringing, wealth, etc. Any time you see a large divide (i.e.= hot girl and ugly guy, wealthy man with previously poor wife) it's usually doesn't work.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
I'd love to make her do a$$ to mouth. While she cries.That first Asian girl in the cowgirl outfit...would violate her in every way imaginable.
Looks don't matter.This was a great illustration of how much looks can matter.
eeeew man, I'm into the whole asians making my **** hard thing, but tentacles are just 2 muchTentacles.
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Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.