SeymourCake
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She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Interesting theory. Sources?All our DNA is is the history of our diet, our parents diet, and their parents diet, all the way back through history, with a diminishing return on some traits and other traits that carry over. In other words, if we start eating better, we improve our DNA.
This is sort of true, but what really happens is, as you get better looking, you get rejected by better looking women. Sure, you could have stayed with that fat girl who dumped you when you were fat, but you didn't.Looks define the level of your game
If you are tall, handsome, ripped you can be poor or needy and still bang chicks but if you short or ugly you can not be poor or needy.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
lol. It's crazy how since I increased my SMV (still on it, but made big changes) I have zero to little interest in the girls I thought I would go for. Like, I can get many IOI by one of those girls but I'm like "meh..."This is sort of true, but what really happens is, as you get better looking, you get rejected by better looking women. Sure, you could have stayed with that fat girl who dumped you when you were fat, but you didn't.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
this. Sometimes I get IOI from hotties I would never have thought would even be interested in me, sometimes I'm a ghost. Why? Well, clothes choices, maybe the beard-level (I mean days without saving), a rebel hair that day. Lots of variables. So the thing is, stablish the most high base SMV that you can, and try to not worry that much about the variables in a particular day, because there's little you can do.Even if you get your diet right and work out and get really good looking and learn how to dress, you will still have some days where you are a 8 or 9 and some days where you are a 6 or 7. Some women will insist that you always be an 8 or 9. That is, they meet you and have love at first sight when you are a 9, and you make it through a few dates, but they dump you the moment they see you be a 7. It will start out as something so small. Their friend who originally loved your tie now says your tie looks crooked, and you're done.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.