SeymourCake
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Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Interesting theory. Sources?All our DNA is is the history of our diet, our parents diet, and their parents diet, all the way back through history, with a diminishing return on some traits and other traits that carry over. In other words, if we start eating better, we improve our DNA.
This is sort of true, but what really happens is, as you get better looking, you get rejected by better looking women. Sure, you could have stayed with that fat girl who dumped you when you were fat, but you didn't.Looks define the level of your game
If you are tall, handsome, ripped you can be poor or needy and still bang chicks but if you short or ugly you can not be poor or needy.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
lol. It's crazy how since I increased my SMV (still on it, but made big changes) I have zero to little interest in the girls I thought I would go for. Like, I can get many IOI by one of those girls but I'm like "meh..."This is sort of true, but what really happens is, as you get better looking, you get rejected by better looking women. Sure, you could have stayed with that fat girl who dumped you when you were fat, but you didn't.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
this. Sometimes I get IOI from hotties I would never have thought would even be interested in me, sometimes I'm a ghost. Why? Well, clothes choices, maybe the beard-level (I mean days without saving), a rebel hair that day. Lots of variables. So the thing is, stablish the most high base SMV that you can, and try to not worry that much about the variables in a particular day, because there's little you can do.Even if you get your diet right and work out and get really good looking and learn how to dress, you will still have some days where you are a 8 or 9 and some days where you are a 6 or 7. Some women will insist that you always be an 8 or 9. That is, they meet you and have love at first sight when you are a 9, and you make it through a few dates, but they dump you the moment they see you be a 7. It will start out as something so small. Their friend who originally loved your tie now says your tie looks crooked, and you're done.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.