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well???
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Why isnt politics allowed to be discussed on here????
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
S1NN3R
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It is kinda silly that they don't allow political discussion due to the fighting and flaming, when nearly every other thread descends into fighting and flaming anyway. At least with political discussions, we could fight and flame about something meaningful.
Le Parisien
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I totally agree with this policy as long as sensitive threads only get closed after things start to get out of control. Basically no politics allowed as a general rule, but somewhat lenient on a case to case basis in its application.
Because:
1) Talking about politics has nothing to do with attracting girls and women
2) It only creates fights and more fights.
3) When we say "politics", it's actually never about the facts contrary to what many people might think, it's not even about opinions, it's about beliefs. People will almost never change their beliefs since it's one of the very foundations of their own existence. Try to convince a conservative to become liberal, or try to convince a sionist that Israel also commits atrocities, try to convince some people that globalization is bad, and some others that globalization is good, etc... All you gonna get is just insults fights and more insults
4) It will be meaningless because it will only be a dialog of the deaf.
5) A few things to avoid talking about if we want a relaxed, non conflictual atmosphere here: politics, religion; and too a lesser extent: race and geopolitics.
:yes:
Because:
1) Talking about politics has nothing to do with attracting girls and women
2) It only creates fights and more fights.
3) When we say "politics", it's actually never about the facts contrary to what many people might think, it's not even about opinions, it's about beliefs. People will almost never change their beliefs since it's one of the very foundations of their own existence. Try to convince a conservative to become liberal, or try to convince a sionist that Israel also commits atrocities, try to convince some people that globalization is bad, and some others that globalization is good, etc... All you gonna get is just insults fights and more insults
4) It will be meaningless because it will only be a dialog of the deaf.
5) A few things to avoid talking about if we want a relaxed, non conflictual atmosphere here: politics, religion; and too a lesser extent: race and geopolitics.
:yes:
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because we like to FIGHT... Hell I've been in 3 mini flame wars in the last week alone...:box: :box: :box: :box:
Francisco d'Anconia
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Because it is a forum geared toward the betterment of the male interaction with women perhaps?g g g unit said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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Well this is the "anything else" part of the forum and besides how are you suppose to be successfull in the world if you dont know anything about it???Le Parisien said:
Centaurion
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Thing is, some (most) members, and not only on this board, tend to hold grudges. A flamewar in one forum tend to spray into others as well.
Tomatoes
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Politics and relgion can turn into very heated debates. :box::trouble:
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Fair enough its just a shame we cant be adults and have a mature conversation about politics without turining this board into a school playground.DJDamage said:
P.S Im actually suprised i didnt get flamed for bringing it up.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Le Parisien
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Actually your question was a legitimate one, so no one would flame you on that.g g g unit said:
But experience has showed that debating about politics or religion and other sensitive and very divisive topics can only split the community without bringing any visible benefits.
Many times the moderators are flexible, from time to time borderline sensitive topics still get brief debates and then get closed just before things start to get out of control.
Francisco d'Anconia
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My question is why is it so important to discuss politics here? I'm the first to say that a guy who is well versed in several topics has a better chance of being interesting. However that's not because he knows more or knows about a particular topic; it's about his presence, his demeanor, his actions, things which are seemingly intrinsic to him, not things external or superficial to him such as miscellaneous topics.
Politics (and religion) always conjure up a special kind of debate. We could have a civil debate on car mechanics, aviation history, and whether Angelina Jolie would make a good screw (yes)... But nearly the moment politics or religion arguments light up the switch board, the argument becomes exceptionally irrational. You have name-calling, mud slinging, ad hominem attacks, and discussing everything but the subject at hand. The actual "argument" stops after a few posts and the rest is an inferno.
Plus, politics (and religion) are guaranteed to turn into a fight every time, whereas for practically any other subject it's up to luck.
Plus, politics (and religion) are guaranteed to turn into a fight every time, whereas for practically any other subject it's up to luck.
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