"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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why is she still on my mind?

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girl that I know I made a mistake with by getting to clingy and needy ghosted me. I've absolutely have accepted it and we will never be a thing but why is she on my mind? I'm getting dates left and right but I still think about her nonstop. I'm a pvssy I've moved on which I know she will never answer me. but I'm so pressed I'm literally thinking about her nonstop even hoping there is a chance which I no 100% there isnt. like dudes I've never felt like this and its annoying. why do I feel like this. what the hell is wrong with me?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I feel like such a little pvussy I mean I go on dates and have banged chicks since but wtf man I hate feeling like this
 

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I feel like such a little pvussy I mean I go on dates and have banged chicks since but wtf man I hate feeling like this

When you least expect it, you will suddenly just stop giving fuks about her!

Its just a matter of time... Hold on, it will pass!

Go lift some weights, works wonders!
 

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You'll forget her. Hell, I haven't been getting any chicks snd I have gotten over a bad friendzone in 2016.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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good idea I need to hit the gym harder and quit smoking.
 

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girl that I know I made a mistake with by getting to clingy and needy ghosted me. I've absolutely have accepted it and we will never be a thing but why is she on my mind? I'm getting dates left and right but I still think about her nonstop. I'm a pvssy I've moved on which I know she will never answer me. but I'm so pressed I'm literally thinking about her nonstop even hoping there is a chance which I no 100% there isnt. like dudes I've never felt like this and its annoying. why do I feel like this. what the hell is wrong with me?
How long had you been seeing her for?
 

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only 3 months dude..... I know pathetic
I just thought we had so much in common and got along so good I thought it was meant to be that's how stupid I am.
 

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only 3 months dude..... I know pathetic
I just thought we had so much in common and got along so good I thought it was meant to be that's how stupid I am.
It's not pathetic. Don't be so hard on yourself. Women's ability to go ghost without a second thought after 1 month or 10 years is something you've always gotta have in the back of your mind. This core characteristic they have is the thing that finally broke my mind free of the idea that they are able to love us unconditionally. You know, that Disney stuff. Don't beat yourself up but be realistic moving forward about how much "happiness" they can really offer you long term and adjust your reality accordingly.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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your very right. i cant take it personally. just kinda messes with my head. I want to be able to not think about her at all. is it weird I still want to be her friend? as lame as that sounds.
 

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Ego is hurt. I still think about my oneitis (attention *****) of a year ago once in a while. Then again she lives down the street from me so it’s not so easy to forget. I wish I could go back and game her with all of the stuff I learned on this site. Things would have been different that’s for sure. But why waste time on bitches that don’t add value to your life.
 

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your very right. i cant take it personally. just kinda messes with my head. I want to be able to not think about her at all. is it weird I still want to be her friend? as lame as that sounds.
No not weird. Just give it time and it’ll pass.
 

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Good to see someone admit to this....

We have all been there....

The truth is that you/we may never get over that "special one" but time and new relationships help.

Good luck.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Good to see someone admit to this....

We have all been there....

The truth is that you/we may never get over that "special one" but time and new relationships help.

Good luck.
Why are they special?
 

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well to me she was special because at 28 years I finally found a girl who I "felt" I 100% clicked with each other and I just felt so good when we were together. in person she was so damn sweet and innocent acting which I adored about her. but sh!t happens.

we live 5 min from each other in this small town. and frequent the same bars she knows that. I want to be like dude fvck it let's end the awkwardness and just be friends to which I have told her this. but she just wont answer whatsoever and I stopped reaching out to her. so either she sees me and leaves or just we talk about it in person if she wants if she sees me either way I'm not feeling awkward in my own town..
 

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It's not pathetic. Don't be so hard on yourself. Women's ability to go ghost without a second thought after 1 month or 10 years is something you've always gotta have in the back of your mind. This core characteristic they have is the thing that finally broke my mind free of the idea that they are able to love us unconditionally. You know, that Disney stuff. Don't beat yourself up but be realistic moving forward about how much "happiness" they can really offer you long term and adjust your reality accordingly.
Clever.

I believe it's coded within women's DNA and its their biological imperative - a survival female code.
 

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yeah do good woman exist anymore? this one didnt just ghost she completely cut me out of her life like. in a weird way. wont even have anything to do with me or my friends like wont look at any snaps. I would still like to be her friend though.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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