"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why is she so annoying???

Project.D

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She calls everyday, more than once. She waits for me outside class. She "sees me in her dreams". She thinks we're soulmates. wtf?

So i have an AFC "girlfriend". Just now she called asking why i dont treat her like my girlfriend, blah blah blah. I replied: "Or else what?" She couldnt say it. I told her ill talk about it on monday.

Whats the deal? Do i have to spend 24/7 with her? Your thoughts please.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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cannibustacap

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My guess is for the exact same reason guys get clingy with girls...

You know the specifics and how you act around her. You probably send little messages, weird signals that drive her nuts for you.

Just stop being a DJ around her. Start acting like a wuss bag clingy dumbass and she'll probably start to hate you. .hehe.
 

evolvingnerd

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wow
i wonder what it'd feel like to have someone be "annoying" like that :D

why not directly tell her ur not interested nor attracted to her/
or giver her the whole friendship thing

and i reccomend against the whole wussy afc clingy thing, because i believe if a girl can turn a DJ / jerk into an afc for her, that makes her even more attracted to him ( ? )
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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You are validating her existence, her purpose. Unfortunately her purpose in life is now you. This is what many AFCs do to women that makes them seem so annoying. It happens whenever the person doesn't have any personal outlets other than the relationship, scary thing.

Unfortunately people initially read it as high IL and start a relationship with the person. Yeah, she has a high IL but is it worth all this?
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Girls can be just as annoying as guys, and in the same way. The fact of the matter is that her behaviors probably wouldn't bother you as much if you were really all that interested in her. But since you're not, they irritate the sh*t out of you. I've been there.

It's a pretty good lesson in "shoe on the other foot". Pay close attention to how annoying it is when she acts like you owe her something simply because she likes you. Then, endeavor to never behave the same way.

I recently dated a girl who I specifically told no relationship. I'm still not ready for one since my fiance and I broke things off. Yet she constantly referred to me as her "boyfriend". Then she got mad when I didn't do "boyfriend" things for her, and she talked about planning a weekend trip so I could meet her mother. I eventually had to let her down easy, but it definitely opened my eyes and made me wonder if I had ever acted like that with any of my old girlfriends.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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