"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why is she so annoying???

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She calls everyday, more than once. She waits for me outside class. She "sees me in her dreams". She thinks we're soulmates. wtf?

So i have an AFC "girlfriend". Just now she called asking why i dont treat her like my girlfriend, blah blah blah. I replied: "Or else what?" She couldnt say it. I told her ill talk about it on monday.

Whats the deal? Do i have to spend 24/7 with her? Your thoughts please.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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cannibustacap

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My guess is for the exact same reason guys get clingy with girls...

You know the specifics and how you act around her. You probably send little messages, weird signals that drive her nuts for you.

Just stop being a DJ around her. Start acting like a wuss bag clingy dumbass and she'll probably start to hate you. .hehe.
 

evolvingnerd

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wow
i wonder what it'd feel like to have someone be "annoying" like that :D

why not directly tell her ur not interested nor attracted to her/
or giver her the whole friendship thing

and i reccomend against the whole wussy afc clingy thing, because i believe if a girl can turn a DJ / jerk into an afc for her, that makes her even more attracted to him ( ? )
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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You are validating her existence, her purpose. Unfortunately her purpose in life is now you. This is what many AFCs do to women that makes them seem so annoying. It happens whenever the person doesn't have any personal outlets other than the relationship, scary thing.

Unfortunately people initially read it as high IL and start a relationship with the person. Yeah, she has a high IL but is it worth all this?
 

Giovanni Casanova

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Girls can be just as annoying as guys, and in the same way. The fact of the matter is that her behaviors probably wouldn't bother you as much if you were really all that interested in her. But since you're not, they irritate the sh*t out of you. I've been there.

It's a pretty good lesson in "shoe on the other foot". Pay close attention to how annoying it is when she acts like you owe her something simply because she likes you. Then, endeavor to never behave the same way.

I recently dated a girl who I specifically told no relationship. I'm still not ready for one since my fiance and I broke things off. Yet she constantly referred to me as her "boyfriend". Then she got mad when I didn't do "boyfriend" things for her, and she talked about planning a weekend trip so I could meet her mother. I eventually had to let her down easy, but it definitely opened my eyes and made me wonder if I had ever acted like that with any of my old girlfriends.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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