RickTheToad
Moderator
I like owning my town home. It's not big, it's not ritzy, but it's me and mine. I've considered moving a few times, but selling is a pain; not to mention moving all my stuff.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Also, don't forget about insurance and any extra utilities.Saying your rent and mortgage payments are the same is made up math, especially if you don’t include property taxes in the mortgage payments. The other thing that’s being ignored is the flexibility rent gives relative to a home. I would never get a home unless I had kids or felt extremely stable where I was.
I pay way less interest than I would pay rent, I could maybe get half of a tiny apartment if I paid rent equivalent to the interest on my moderately sized house. Renting is ultimately more wasteful, at least here.You are paying interest for 30 years on a loan.
After 30 years my house will be worth more than it is today, unless something catastrophic happens to the Norwegian economy, which is unlikely considering Norway owns 1.3% of global stocks and shares. Again, renting is far more expensive than paying interest here, it would be insane to rent if I have the option not to.Yes you end up with an asset at the end, but I could just as easily put aside the same amount that you pay in interest in an annuity while paying rent and have the same $ asset after 30 years; maybe higher given the fact that my asset will be far more diversified.
In addition to owning a house I save up almost the equivalent of what I pay in interest every month too.The problem is most people are not disciplined enough to put aside money unless they own a house.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
You totally misunderstood what I said but whatever, this discussion is exhausting.I pay way less interest than I would pay rent, I could maybe get half of a tiny apartment if I paid rent equivalent to the interest on my moderately sized house. Renting is ultimately more wasteful, at least here.
After 30 years my house will be worth more than it is today, unless something catastrophic happens to the Norwegian economy, which is unlikely considering Norway owns 1.3% of global stocks and shares. Again, renting is far more expensive than paying interest here, it would be insane to rent if I have the option not to.
In addition to owning a house I save up almost the equivalent of what I pay in interest every month too.
You seemed to be arguing that having a loan isn't any cheaper than renting. This may for all I know be true where you're from, it is significantly not so where I live. I'm not trying to be an ass or anything, I would like to know what I misunderstood.You totally misunderstood what I said but whatever, this discussion is exhausting.
Yeah it's a little easier when you don't have to worry about selling, but not too bad IMO.The more important point actually is the optionality rent gives you. I’ve moved 3 times in the last 10 years and I can keep chasing the best opportunities in front of me.