"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why is C&F taking so much flak these days?

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Ok, this is a bit of a personal issue with me because i'm the kind of guy who's cracking jokes all the time, making people laugh at just about instance i can. I'm very confident as my inner game is tight and i know what i'm capable of in my life.

Maybe when i realised that it can actually be used as a 'method' i pushed it a little harder in my regual day to day, But within reason, and it's not like i actively think "i have to be funny", i just am.

So its damn annoying to be reading every few days "Stop being C&F" or something along those lines.

My own personal experience with it is this, Chicks dig it, dudes dig it, i'm having a blast cuz i'm happy all the time, so what's the big deal?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Why do you care what a bunch of strangers on the internet think? A stranger once told me that "dudes dig it."
 
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I think C&F is very misunderstood. Telling those who are new to the whole DJ thing to use C&F helps them display confidence, value, and sexuality.

If a guy is already seen as confident, attractive, and important, C&F seems like bragging and people may see him as a complete tool. Also, girls are generally more fearful of rejection than guys, so if girl sees you as TOO HIGH value, she will probably consider herself unworthy and not chase you.

I like C&F, but I think the funny half should be stressed. Maybe we could capitalize the F but not the C. Whatever works for you.
 
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I suppose C&F is an awsome tool! IF, just IF you respect others boundaries. You don't wanna make someone feel bad! hehe. You want fun for both sides! :up:

I don't think everyone understands this... But if done right, I supose it's gold! It's fun, girls like it, AND their interrest level raises too! What's not to like?
 
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Honestly though, if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Whatever works for you, man.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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The problem with ****y funny is most guys are coming from the wrong place when 'using it'.

So many guys have felt like they have no power with women for so long and then they hear be ****y + funny and think "Cool, now I get to be arrogant and put women in their places". If a guy is using ****y + funny as a way to get back at women then no, it's not going to work. Instead the guy comes off as an arrogant jerk.

****y + Funny does work when it achieves what 'the method' originally intended - namely making the interaction playful. If it's coming from a good place - being playful, C+ F does work. IMO C+ F should be replaced with being "Confident + playful".
 
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Cool, that's actually what i wanted to hear. I always figured that people emphaized the "****y" aspect of it in order to "DHV" or whatever. The problem is that you turn into a **** who nobody with any self-respect will like.

I love Truman's thought. Confident and Playful. I think i'll have to steal that from you :p

If the system lets me, three of you get rep.
 
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Its cause theyre a bunch of tool bag douches on this site that dont know how to wipe their own ass.
 
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