"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why I'll never get a girlfriend part 2

SamTheHobit

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I'm an attractive guy from an emotionally abusive home and relatively poor.

I can't bring women home due to the sh!t hole of a place you call home.

Every girl seems interested at first (I'm assuming because I'm good looking) but then the first time they go out with me (Happens once in a blue moon) I never here from them again or get one worded replys. (One girl actually blocked me.)

They seem to actually be repelled by me? Is it possible I have a personality that repels women?

Can any of you guys relate?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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JoeMarron

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*incoming cliche advice* You'll never get a girlfriend because you keep saying you'll never get a girlfriend.
 

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Take this post with a massive grain of salt, as I'm just getting into this world, and I'm very inexperienced.

I've felt similarly about never having a girl friend, or getting laid, but for different reasons. The key thing I realized is that yes, the problem stems from myself, but that all of that is recoverable, and can be fixed. And by being here, I am taking those steps.

I had never asked a girl out, and I managed to get one with a total stunner. Yeah, I ****ed it up, but things take practice and time to perfect. The mere fact that you are getting dates occasionally shows that there is hope.

Nobody is born perfect or fully formed, it is just through our experiences that we get molded. For some these are bad, and that is why we need to be proactive in fixing ourselves and getting what we want.

It looks like you've located the problem, and now you just need to be proactive about fixing it , rather than "wallowing" in it.
 

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Perhaps I'm having another sh!tty day. But having one girlfriend in my entire life and lasted for five months. She was affectionately unavailable that put other guys in first place. And that was ages ago. I don't deserve this.
 

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You're personality probably repels them.

I've seen some of your posts around this forum, to me you just seem like the type that constantly tries to bring other people down to feel better about himself. You also seem quite passive-agresive.

This is one of them:
SamTheHobbit said:
Women are wh0res, and get used to the reality of dying alone or settling with a girl that's rid the c0ck carousel.
I'm not entirely sure I'm right , but yeah, that's my insight.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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SamTheHobit said:
I'm an attractive guy from an emotionally abusive home and relatively poor.

I can't bring women home due to the sh!t hole of a place you call home.

Every girl seems interested at first (I'm assuming because I'm good looking) but then the first time they go out with me (Happens once in a blue moon) I never here from them again or get one worded replys. (One girl actually blocked me.)

They seem to actually be repelled by me? Is it possible I have a personality that repels women?

Can any of you guys relate?

You are negative and jugdemental....work on these things...and u are wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too serious.....
 

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I say stop teh self pity, go out and stop caring for what a woman think, and you shouldn't looking for a GF you should look for something fun to do
 

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You say every girl seems interested at first, but once you go on a date (every blue moon)... Why only so few dates? Do you ask them out? Show sexual interest? Exchange numbers? How do they interact with you? Flirting? Physical compliments? Bright smiles, touching, googly eyes, teasing, excitement? Wanting to be in your presence? Being "open" to you? Other signs of interest? How is the actual conversation that takes place? Do they lose interest once you start conversating? Before the date, are they all excited and anticipated? Infatuated? Do they give you multiple chances? Mention flaws you have? How do you act around them?

Don't have anything to go by, here. Details... need 'em.
 

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Next time you run across a girl who makes you think "damn she's really stupid," don't walk away or push her away. Instead, keep thinking of ways to trick her to let you do whatever.
 

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I just had a bad day.. I need to keep at it, Until I find a virgin.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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zinc4 said:
You are negative and jugdemental....work on these things...and u are wayyyyyyyyyyyyy too serious.....
^This. While I don't think humor is strictly REQUIRED to get a girl, being fun (and/or funny) is very helpful. No c&f crap, just being positive, light hearted, playful, and fun.

Participate in some of our "fun" (joke) threads even if they seem trollish. From what I read, you have the looks. Just need to have a little fun man.
 

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Zion said:
You're personality probably repels them.

I've seen some of your posts around this forum, to me you just seem like the type that constantly tries to bring other people down to feel better about himself. You also seem quite passive-agresive.

This is one of them:


I'm not entirely sure I'm right , but yeah, that's my insight.
Lol!

Anyway Sam you just gotta have confidence man! Girls like guys who are confident, charming, and caring. Haha I like those 3 C's wayyyy better than the "car, career, and christ" that my friends follow
 

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BelleSing94 said:
Lol!

Anyway Sam you just gotta have confidence man! Girls like guys who are confident, charming, and caring. Haha I like those 3 C's wayyyy better than the "car, career, and christ" that my friends follow
I like those triple combinations... My other favorites:

Muscles, masters, and Mercedes -- Judge Nismo

Height, hair, and hedge fund -- Mike32ct

:D
 

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Sam as the guys pointed out already you have a problem with negativity, the good news is that not only you can get rid of it but relax because its not your fault, you probably suffer the conseguences of living in a disfunctional environment as you said.

Guys here simply undervalue how living in a toxis house or a toxic group of peers /school can damage someone.

Now evaluate yourself how toxic your environment is and try to fix it, not sure how messy south africa is now but also consider to join the army if you have no other choice.

I wish you to solve your problems since you're still young and acknowledge the fact that they exist, wish I became aware of mine when I was your age but awfully there was no sosuave back then.



Mike32ct said:
I like those triple combinations... My other favorites:

Muscles, masters, and Mercedes -- Judge Nismo

Height, hair, and hedge fund -- Mike32ct

:D
:crackup:
Well man you guys are right, those are the qualities you need to get them.

But if you want to keep them around it takes 3 Cs:

Charme, currency and c0ck. :up:
 

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SamTheHobit said:
I'm an attractive guy from an emotionally abusive home and relatively poor.

I can't bring women home due to the sh!t hole of a place you call home.

Every girl seems interested at first (I'm assuming because I'm good looking) but then the first time they go out with me (Happens once in a blue moon) I never here from them again or get one worded replys. (One girl actually blocked me.)

They seem to actually be repelled by me? Is it possible I have a personality that repels women?

Can any of you guys relate?

your saying your personality may repel them...to be honest with the attitude you have right now...why would they want to be around you buddy...you need to change your mind set b/c u seem to have very low self esteem...the most attractive person is the one who is confident with what they have...change ur mindset man...somethings gotta give b/c whats happening right now isnt working...you can do it man!!
just my 2 cents

keep spinning boyz,
J0504s
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Sam ,
1.get out of there,you and packers are both in a sh!tty environment.question is can you bail out?

2.if i gave you a plant that grew tight vag!nas as fruit, would you still want a GF?

3.dont you think its possible to just bang girls in a bush or park rather than your house?

4.do you think that there is a "one" for you?


answer the above questions and then we'll know nuff bout you to pass a ruling :)
 

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I think this thread was a mistake. My problems are way beyond this forum.

I think once I get my own place a stable income and move back to America things will sort themselves out.
 

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SamTheHobit said:
I think this thread was a mistake. My problems are way beyond this forum.

I think once I get my own place a stable income and move back to America things will sort themselves out.
this post i finally see some optimism...there ya go!!! thats the most alpha too Own place own Income....setting goals and accomplishing them...this is where your journey begins...
 

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SamTheHobit said:
I'm an attractive guy from an emotionally abusive home and relatively poor.

I can't bring women home due to the sh!t hole of a place you call home.

Every girl seems interested at first (I'm assuming because I'm good looking) but then the first time they go out with me (Happens once in a blue moon) I never here from them again or get one worded replys. (One girl actually blocked me.)

They seem to actually be repelled by me? Is it possible I have a personality that repels women?

Can any of you guys relate?
Thats the best you can get, and you should be fvcking happy with that
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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