"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Why I stopped using the 1-10 rating scale

AudiTy

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The guy in David DeAngelo's DYD seminar, I think he's called Steve,
had the right idea.

"The rating scale is the biggest load of bs ever laid on man, there is
only one rating scale I use, she's either a 1 or a 0. She's
good enough, or she's not good enough"

This is a wise way of looking at things, for many reasons.

When you see a 7.5, you think to yourself "She's cute, I'll approach
and see what happens". When you see a 9.5, it can be easy to get
caught up in the moment and act according to the rating, folding
under the added pressure, "Wow she really is something, I better not
screw this one up".

When you implement the 1 - 0 (digital) scale, this neutrilises the
factor of beauty, or how well you will have to do to close. I
understand that your game will differ for different standards of
looks, but if you treat it as either she's a target or she isn't, it
can be alot easier to approach as the reactions to the girl are
based on your standards, rather than her standard.

Any thoughts?

-AudiTy =o
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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i am me

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ya but its fun to rate people wit friends n stuff..
 

Doggystyle

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I didn't think people use the scale in real life,that would be taking the scale thing and forum way way too far.

The scale is just so you can give people an idea of the sort of girls they are dealing with on field rapport and tactics as there is no picture. dealing with ugly girls, average girls and super hot girls are all totally different so you need some sort of rating system other wise you might be trying to do stuff on super hot girls that was a tactic originally used on some fat hog.

But yeah i agree in real life its either a yes, no or maybe
 

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I dont think hot or not would like that scale : P
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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i am me

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Doggystyle said:
I didn't think people use the scale in real life,that would be taking the scale thing and forum way way too far.

The scale is just so you can give people an idea of the sort of girls they are dealing with on field rapport and tactics as there is no picture. dealing with ugly girls, average girls and super hot girls are all totally different so you need some sort of rating system other wise you might be trying to do stuff on super hot girls that was a tactic originally used on some fat hog.

But yeah i agree in real life its either a yes, no or maybe
ya man, everyone knows about scales, its not like an internet thing or somethin like that....
 

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I've kind of adopted this method into my own thinking, although i've never heard of it before. I didn't really have a scale, such as the 1-0 scale. When i am looking for girls to approach, i just have come to the point where i look at a girl and decide whether i'd want to talk to her or not. If she's cute and her personality seems to work for me, or i just get a vibe that she's the kind of girl i'd want to talk to and i'm attracted i'll go for her, if not then, i won't. That's just how it goes. It makes things a lot easier. It's no longer, whether she's cute or not, it's whether you're interested in not. It closes off all kinds of doubt, and you go for what you want, and don't get intimidated by hotter girls. A girl is a girl. That's basically it.
 

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I subscribe to Gunwitch's view that a man when presented with the opportunity to have sex with a woman under circumstances in which he is GUARANTEED that nobody he knows will ever find out, he will almost always have sex with her unless she is deformed, morbidly obese or smells bad. Once faced with the knowledge that people who can judge him will know it happened things change, and herein lies the origin of the 1-10 scale.
 

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In a conversation with Wyldfire she said there are 3 categories that she places men in:

-Not at all attractive
-Somewhat attractive
-Very attractive

I think that's all you need really.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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the problem with the 1 - 10 scale is you find most ppl say every girl is a 6 or 7 bcoz they dont wanna say the girl is too ugly, or too hot, so they hover in the middle but just above 5 bcoz 5 is directly average.
 

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You need two scales:

0 or 1 for YOURSELF when you are out and meeting girls. Either you'd approach or not.

1-10 for discussing it with others, so they get some kind of sense of how hot the girl is.

Let's make this really complicated... turn it into a two number system. The first number is YOUR number, the second is for everyone else.

"So, I was walking the boardwalk and this readhead 1/7.5 comes down the street with her 1/8 and 0/5.5 friends...".

LOL
 

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I actually like that idea Wyldfire presented. The not attractive, somewhat attractive, and very attractive. It really covers the whole spectrum. Also i agree with the idea of rating to discuss, but in a way it just seems kinda of trivial to me you know. Cause attraction and physical appearence isn't a measurable quantity, it's all a perspective so in a way placing numbers on it just seems a little out of place. because one person's 2 could be another person's 9. The numbers are just so bland you know. I just say go with it and just say if you think the girl's attractive or not. Man, i totally lost what else i was going to say, but i think i did a good job of getting most of it out.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Shít...wait, where was it? Tips? Sorry to bother you :p

-AudiTy =o
 

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gutted. i thought i invented the binary scale but turns out it was some bloke called steve. story of my life.......
 

AudiTy

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soontobesuave said:
gutted. i thought i invented the binary scale but turns out it was some bloke called steve. story of my life.......
Just because someone else made it famous doesn't mean you shouldn't get some credit.

You win a Gold Star and a packet of Malteasers. WELL DONE!

-AudiTy =o
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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