"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why I stopped using the 1-10 rating scale

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The guy in David DeAngelo's DYD seminar, I think he's called Steve,
had the right idea.

"The rating scale is the biggest load of bs ever laid on man, there is
only one rating scale I use, she's either a 1 or a 0. She's
good enough, or she's not good enough"

This is a wise way of looking at things, for many reasons.

When you see a 7.5, you think to yourself "She's cute, I'll approach
and see what happens". When you see a 9.5, it can be easy to get
caught up in the moment and act according to the rating, folding
under the added pressure, "Wow she really is something, I better not
screw this one up".

When you implement the 1 - 0 (digital) scale, this neutrilises the
factor of beauty, or how well you will have to do to close. I
understand that your game will differ for different standards of
looks, but if you treat it as either she's a target or she isn't, it
can be alot easier to approach as the reactions to the girl are
based on your standards, rather than her standard.

Any thoughts?

-AudiTy =o
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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i am me

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ya but its fun to rate people wit friends n stuff..
 

Doggystyle

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I didn't think people use the scale in real life,that would be taking the scale thing and forum way way too far.

The scale is just so you can give people an idea of the sort of girls they are dealing with on field rapport and tactics as there is no picture. dealing with ugly girls, average girls and super hot girls are all totally different so you need some sort of rating system other wise you might be trying to do stuff on super hot girls that was a tactic originally used on some fat hog.

But yeah i agree in real life its either a yes, no or maybe
 

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I dont think hot or not would like that scale : P
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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i am me

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Doggystyle said:
I didn't think people use the scale in real life,that would be taking the scale thing and forum way way too far.

The scale is just so you can give people an idea of the sort of girls they are dealing with on field rapport and tactics as there is no picture. dealing with ugly girls, average girls and super hot girls are all totally different so you need some sort of rating system other wise you might be trying to do stuff on super hot girls that was a tactic originally used on some fat hog.

But yeah i agree in real life its either a yes, no or maybe
ya man, everyone knows about scales, its not like an internet thing or somethin like that....
 

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I've kind of adopted this method into my own thinking, although i've never heard of it before. I didn't really have a scale, such as the 1-0 scale. When i am looking for girls to approach, i just have come to the point where i look at a girl and decide whether i'd want to talk to her or not. If she's cute and her personality seems to work for me, or i just get a vibe that she's the kind of girl i'd want to talk to and i'm attracted i'll go for her, if not then, i won't. That's just how it goes. It makes things a lot easier. It's no longer, whether she's cute or not, it's whether you're interested in not. It closes off all kinds of doubt, and you go for what you want, and don't get intimidated by hotter girls. A girl is a girl. That's basically it.
 

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I subscribe to Gunwitch's view that a man when presented with the opportunity to have sex with a woman under circumstances in which he is GUARANTEED that nobody he knows will ever find out, he will almost always have sex with her unless she is deformed, morbidly obese or smells bad. Once faced with the knowledge that people who can judge him will know it happened things change, and herein lies the origin of the 1-10 scale.
 

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In a conversation with Wyldfire she said there are 3 categories that she places men in:

-Not at all attractive
-Somewhat attractive
-Very attractive

I think that's all you need really.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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the problem with the 1 - 10 scale is you find most ppl say every girl is a 6 or 7 bcoz they dont wanna say the girl is too ugly, or too hot, so they hover in the middle but just above 5 bcoz 5 is directly average.
 

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You need two scales:

0 or 1 for YOURSELF when you are out and meeting girls. Either you'd approach or not.

1-10 for discussing it with others, so they get some kind of sense of how hot the girl is.

Let's make this really complicated... turn it into a two number system. The first number is YOUR number, the second is for everyone else.

"So, I was walking the boardwalk and this readhead 1/7.5 comes down the street with her 1/8 and 0/5.5 friends...".

LOL
 

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I actually like that idea Wyldfire presented. The not attractive, somewhat attractive, and very attractive. It really covers the whole spectrum. Also i agree with the idea of rating to discuss, but in a way it just seems kinda of trivial to me you know. Cause attraction and physical appearence isn't a measurable quantity, it's all a perspective so in a way placing numbers on it just seems a little out of place. because one person's 2 could be another person's 9. The numbers are just so bland you know. I just say go with it and just say if you think the girl's attractive or not. Man, i totally lost what else i was going to say, but i think i did a good job of getting most of it out.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Shít...wait, where was it? Tips? Sorry to bother you :p

-AudiTy =o
 

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gutted. i thought i invented the binary scale but turns out it was some bloke called steve. story of my life.......
 

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soontobesuave said:
gutted. i thought i invented the binary scale but turns out it was some bloke called steve. story of my life.......
Just because someone else made it famous doesn't mean you shouldn't get some credit.

You win a Gold Star and a packet of Malteasers. WELL DONE!

-AudiTy =o
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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