Good point. Just remember to continue being the guy she liked in the first place and DON'T CHANGE. You may not have total control over your emotions, but you can consciously stop yourself from becoming AFC/Niceguy/wuss just by avoiding AFC/niceguy/wussy behaviour.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
why I know Im in love
- Thread starter frivolousz21
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
of course and I do this..I do this in diff ways.
if I see myself slip at all..I pull back..to keep it in check.
but I really havent slipped yet.
and I wont.
remember she hasnt talked to me in 6 days..she has no idea how i feel or what im doing over here.
I just want to not worry...im sick of it..been doing it my entire life..and when I think ive conquered it..it comes back.
if I see myself slip at all..I pull back..to keep it in check.
but I really havent slipped yet.
and I wont.
remember she hasnt talked to me in 6 days..she has no idea how i feel or what im doing over here.
I just want to not worry...im sick of it..been doing it my entire life..and when I think ive conquered it..it comes back.
I remember when this started happening to me over my last GF. I hope to god that it doesn't turn out for you, the way it did for me...Just don't start to unconsciously AFC it up. Don't lose your game in their eyes...or your heart will be broken, and you will get burned.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
thanks guys....
luckily..I havent yet..and now that she is away..I can see where I could go wrong...
and I will not let that happen.
luckily..I havent yet..and now that she is away..I can see where I could go wrong...
and I will not let that happen.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
she called..we talked for about 6 or 7 min.
it was nice to hear her again......very nice.
it was nice to hear her again......very nice.
Ken785
Master Don Juan
wow...and your like a senior member too...so theres no way you can be afc with 1243 posts.....maybe there is hope out there for real love.Originally posted by frivolousz21
because my girl is gone from the 13th to the 22nd...
over in Germany for World Youth week.
well until yesterday I didnt miss her that much..I did..but I was fine.
Yesterday it hit me like a brick wall..that I want someone of that womens lovin.
well I havent talk to her....first off her mom called me and told me they all bought domestic calling cards...MORONS
but I also told her not to call me until the 17th-20th. so its been 6 days now..and I do miss her like crack.
anyways.....Yea Illl admit I miss her a ton and cant wait to see/hear her again. even though it sucks...it really does suck..I know now how I really feel about this person and what she is in my life. I hope the ones out there who want this..find this.
1 more thing..she wont ever know this!
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
Man I am far from AFC...trust me...
I have great advice on all situations except healthy LTR"s if anyone is willing to listen.
I have great advice on all situations except healthy LTR"s
if anyone is willing to listen.Are you gay dude? For some reason I get the vibe that your GF is a male.Originally posted by frivolousz21
Man I am far from AFC...trust me...
I have great advice on all situations except healthy LTR"s
Or you are a girl in disguise.Now I could be totally wrong here, so I apologize in advance if I'm wrong.
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Textbook Oneitis.
If your going to stink up the place with this crap then prove to us how this cvnt is any different to the next and why she deserves such an honour as you using the term "love" before tainting this place any further with the stench of yet another generic dating site.
If your going to stink up the place with this crap then prove to us how this cvnt is any different to the next and why she deserves such an honour as you using the term "love" before tainting this place any further with the stench of yet another generic dating site.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.
Listen to GGTW. You should never feel as if you got hit by a brick wall because if you feel like this when she is away, imagine how would you feel if the relationship hits a snag and she left you for another guy??! could you hold your composure and get on with your everyday life? or will you become depressed and spend your money on booze and mellow in your own misery for quite some time??
drixsa
Master Don Juan
You are not in love but infatuated.
Learn to know the difference.
OH that and your HORNY.
Learn to know the difference.
OH that and your HORNY.
MindOverMatter
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jesus, when that bubble pops, you're gonna hit rock bottom.
step back, relax, and stop obsessing over her like this.
peace.
step back, relax, and stop obsessing over her like this.
peace.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
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