Good point. Just remember to continue being the guy she liked in the first place and DON'T CHANGE. You may not have total control over your emotions, but you can consciously stop yourself from becoming AFC/Niceguy/wuss just by avoiding AFC/niceguy/wussy behaviour.
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
why I know Im in love
- Thread starter frivolousz21
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
of course and I do this..I do this in diff ways.
if I see myself slip at all..I pull back..to keep it in check.
but I really havent slipped yet.
and I wont.
remember she hasnt talked to me in 6 days..she has no idea how i feel or what im doing over here.
I just want to not worry...im sick of it..been doing it my entire life..and when I think ive conquered it..it comes back.
if I see myself slip at all..I pull back..to keep it in check.
but I really havent slipped yet.
and I wont.
remember she hasnt talked to me in 6 days..she has no idea how i feel or what im doing over here.
I just want to not worry...im sick of it..been doing it my entire life..and when I think ive conquered it..it comes back.
I remember when this started happening to me over my last GF. I hope to god that it doesn't turn out for you, the way it did for me...Just don't start to unconsciously AFC it up. Don't lose your game in their eyes...or your heart will be broken, and you will get burned.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
thanks guys....
luckily..I havent yet..and now that she is away..I can see where I could go wrong...
and I will not let that happen.
luckily..I havent yet..and now that she is away..I can see where I could go wrong...
and I will not let that happen.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
she called..we talked for about 6 or 7 min.
it was nice to hear her again......very nice.
it was nice to hear her again......very nice.
Ken785
Master Don Juan
wow...and your like a senior member too...so theres no way you can be afc with 1243 posts.....maybe there is hope out there for real love.Originally posted by frivolousz21
because my girl is gone from the 13th to the 22nd...
over in Germany for World Youth week.
well until yesterday I didnt miss her that much..I did..but I was fine.
Yesterday it hit me like a brick wall..that I want someone of that womens lovin.
well I havent talk to her....first off her mom called me and told me they all bought domestic calling cards...MORONS
but I also told her not to call me until the 17th-20th. so its been 6 days now..and I do miss her like crack.
anyways.....Yea Illl admit I miss her a ton and cant wait to see/hear her again. even though it sucks...it really does suck..I know now how I really feel about this person and what she is in my life. I hope the ones out there who want this..find this.
1 more thing..she wont ever know this!
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
Man I am far from AFC...trust me...
I have great advice on all situations except healthy LTR"s if anyone is willing to listen.
I have great advice on all situations except healthy LTR"s
if anyone is willing to listen.Are you gay dude? For some reason I get the vibe that your GF is a male.Originally posted by frivolousz21
Man I am far from AFC...trust me...
I have great advice on all situations except healthy LTR"s
Or you are a girl in disguise.Now I could be totally wrong here, so I apologize in advance if I'm wrong.
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Textbook Oneitis.
If your going to stink up the place with this crap then prove to us how this cvnt is any different to the next and why she deserves such an honour as you using the term "love" before tainting this place any further with the stench of yet another generic dating site.
If your going to stink up the place with this crap then prove to us how this cvnt is any different to the next and why she deserves such an honour as you using the term "love" before tainting this place any further with the stench of yet another generic dating site.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Listen to GGTW. You should never feel as if you got hit by a brick wall because if you feel like this when she is away, imagine how would you feel if the relationship hits a snag and she left you for another guy??! could you hold your composure and get on with your everyday life? or will you become depressed and spend your money on booze and mellow in your own misery for quite some time??
drixsa
Master Don Juan
You are not in love but infatuated.
Learn to know the difference.
OH that and your HORNY.
Learn to know the difference.
OH that and your HORNY.
MindOverMatter
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jesus, when that bubble pops, you're gonna hit rock bottom.
step back, relax, and stop obsessing over her like this.
peace.
step back, relax, and stop obsessing over her like this.
peace.
frivolousz21
Master Don Juan
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