"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why I fear rejection after the approach (no one talks about this aspect!)

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It's not that I fear the girls will think I'm a douche - who cares? They'll go home and you'll be forgotten by the time they wake up the next day.

The real fear I have is this:

My FRIENDS will see me getting blown out, and this will damage my pimp reputation!

Many of them, lacking the balls to do the approach, will rationalise that I suck with women...

Maybe there's something wrong with me, but I like to maintain the impression amongst my peer group that I'm mostly rejection-free and good with women.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Simple, on paper anyway . . Shed that facade and be yourself, and stop trying to control your friends perceptions. Long way from the boards to reality though, I know.
 
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A good friend will admire you for approaching girls. You have to be selective though. He will say to himself "damn, that fuvker's got some balls, and he doesn't give fuvk what people think"
 
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Well, deep down he may admire you. But prepare to be clowned beyond belief as he revels in the safety of his ego.

His words: "Hahahaha, you got DISSED, bro! You did it all wrong!"
His ego: "YES! He is at my level still! I AM STILL OK. SUFFER!"
His sub-conscious: "Wow. That took some balls."
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Maybe, but eventually all your approaching will pay off and they will see you with some quality chicks, so who will be laughing then? Keep your eye on the long term goal, but be ready when opportunities come up sooner than expected.
 
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Trust me, I was one of those people that laughed at the people that at least made an attempt. I could preserve my ego and make fun of those dudes getting blown out. But guess what? Then I saw those same dudes score with chicks that I liked. Who got the last laugh?

Just be yourself and don't worry about what others think. No matter how hard you try to control your rep, people will know the real you. Most people aren't stupid. They'll know if you're a pimp daddy or just pretending to be one.
 
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Some of my friends used to be condescending and that would make me nervous about approaching, but even they will agree it's better to approach and get blown out than be a *****...a good friend will laugh at your misfortune (as well you should too, just shake it off and laugh about it) but acknowledge a good effort and realize you've got balls. If your friend would legitimately laugh at you for approaching and getting rejected and think less of you afterwards...umm...either you'd have to really suck or just have sh*tty friends.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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this is the only thing I fear,"Them already being taken"

Thats it, but I go for it anyway, but after I find out they're taken, I try to end the convo as soon as possible.
 
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Switch up your group of friends, at least when you go out to meet girls. I can't stand that competitive bullsh*t, everyone I roll with if you go and talk to a chick when you return to the group you get a pat on the back and a "good job bro" no matter if you got her number or you got a drink thrown in your face. Stay positive, be with positive people and its much easier to have a good time.
 
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Ya me and my group usually just point out hot chicks and play Rock,Paper Scissors to see who will be the 1st one to attempt to get her number or some "play"
 
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Friends are over rated. Like many myths (i.e. 'true love'/'altruism'/even 'god'), some things are too good to be true.
 
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Friends are over rated. Like many myths (i.e. 'true love'/'altruism'/even 'god'), some things are too good to be true.
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Are you a hermit?

Friends are immense, friends are like the "Hate something, change something, make something better" advert from Honda. They are so annoyingly good to have around.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Luminescence said:
Friends are over rated. Like many myths (i.e. 'true love'/'altruism'/even 'god'), some things are too good to be true.
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No, friends are necessary. Without friends, life sucks. You're alone.

Get better friends.
 
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