"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Why I do not like sarging...

Mr Plow

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I do not like it, because going out with the sole intention of meeting women puts a lot more pressure on you to mett women with results. I find that I perform much better when I am out with friends just to have a good time, not worrying about any girls, then when I DO go to talk to them I feel a lot more relaxed and laid back.

Does anybody else feel this way too?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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You're 15. I'm 16.

We're in high school.

We don't need sarging to meet girls just yet.
 

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I know exactly what your talking about. It's kind of a counter productive thing, because you don't want to be thinking in a "sarging" mode. But then again you don't want to be in the "I'm just having fun" mode because they you'll probably end up never approaching.

The way I see it is that your just going out to have a good time and your way of having fun is approaching women and offering value to them. Basically being outcome dependent, that way there is no pressure because your not expecting anything, if it happens then it happens.

I still honestly think stripping away all your comfort zones and and just learning to have "FUN" on your on is what will really make things easier in the long run, because even if your with friends...those days when your by yourself and see a hot girl, your not in the same state.

I noticed this when I first started learning, especially because my friends were naturals. When it was me by myself though, it was sooo much harder to even talk to chicks. But I've worked on that during the summer to the point where I can go out anywhere by myself and still have fun because I'm going to end up meeting new people regardless.

Pickup is fun and that is why I do it. Messing and playing around with the chicks is what makes it fun, because I'm doing it for my own amusement. I could careless what the people think, all I care about is having fun...which in the end the group ends up having fun because I'm only offering value.

There are alot of theory that contradicts each other...
 

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smooth guy said:
You're 15. I'm 16.

We're in high school.

We don't need sarging to meet girls just yet.
You wouldn't be able to meet girls around my school if you was me. Most of them are horrifically horiible looking, and the hot ones, I've made myself look a tw*t to because I lacked experience. Must talk to more of them, there are a few hot ones I haven't yet screwed up with XD
 

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Snow Plowman said:
I know exactly what your talking about. It's kind of a counter productive thing, because you don't want to be thinking in a "sarging" mode. But then again you don't want to be in the "I'm just having fun" mode because they you'll probably end up never approaching.

The way I see it is that your just going out to have a good time and your way of having fun is approaching women and offering value to them. Basically being outcome dependent, that way there is no pressure because your not expecting anything, if it happens then it happens.

I still honestly think stripping away all your comfort zones and and just learning to have "FUN" on your on is what will really make things easier in the long run, because even if your with friends...those days when your by yourself and see a hot girl, your not in the same state.

I noticed this when I first started learning, especially because my friends were naturals. When it was me by myself though, it was sooo much harder to even talk to chicks. But I've worked on that during the summer to the point where I can go out anywhere by myself and still have fun because I'm going to end up meeting new people regardless.

Pickup is fun and that is why I do it. Messing and playing around with the chicks is what makes it fun, because I'm doing it for my own amusement. I could careless what the people think, all I care about is having fun...which in the end the group ends up having fun because I'm only offering value.

There are alot of theory that contradicts each other...
I agree, when I am on my own it's like my confidence to approach drains out of me : /... Never mind I am working on it :up:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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