"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Why I believe a 7/8 makes a better girlfriend than a 9/10!!

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I have given this alot of thought lately and I think it makes alot of sense or maybe it is just me.

It is common knowledge that the hotter a woman is, the more she will be checked out and hit on daily. Do you REALLY want to be with a girl that is so hot (I am talking about girls with triple take faces) that she is constantly getting checked out by every heterosexual male aged 18-75 and constantly getting hit on or harassed right in front of you? Alot of these girls KNOW THEY ARE THE **** and KNOW they can get any guy they want. Insecurity besides, this can get quite annoying. There was this girl I used to work with named Aphrodite (no joke) who had a gorgeous face, was about 5'8" and had huge boobs (fake ones) and was slim. I used to work in Jersey City right on the water. When this girl when out for a smoke, EVERY MALE AT EVERY AGE would turn and look at her, NO EXAGGERATION. Who the hell wants to deal with that???
Even if you are EQUALLY AS GOOD-LOOKING, it would NOT make a difference too much.

Girls in the 7/8 range to me are girls who have cute faces but not gorgeous faces. They may or maynot have a slamming body, but usually it is decent. Girls like these definitely get attention and hit on, but no where near the 9's and 10's. Girls like these are a dime a dozen and blend into a crowd more. You ever meet a girl who does not have a gorgeous face (according to the facial balance theory) but something about her look makes her appealing? Girls in this range tend to have better personalities and the best part.........GIRLS LIKE THESE WILL BECOME 9's and 10's in your own mind if you get along with them well.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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The only problem is if I dated a 7/8, I would feel I didn't live up to my goals of getting a 9. Its all personal preference I guess.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Or just have the 9's and 10's come to your place and just fvck so u dont go out in public :D j/k..or am i
 

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So what you're saying is that being around 9s and 10s makes you insecure about yourself?

Not that I can't relate...but c'mon. ;)
 

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mahon83050 said:
Ah yes, I do seem to contradict myself between the two posts. However, my main point in this post is comfort zone. I may not think 9's and 10's are out of my league, but I would feel more comfy with a 7 or 8.
But what if a guy thinks your 7/8 is a 9/10? Are you better off just dating a 5/6 or lower? C'mon, comfort (limiting) levels are fine but they can be debilitating if they are allowed to run rampant.
 

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bah, she can have every guy she wants just because she's a 9/10? :rolleyes:

She can't necessarily have me.
 

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I know some 6...7s...that when they try to look good, they jump to a 12, 13...

Careful how you look at looks.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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its all about who has the power in the relationship. if she does she will use you and likely cheat on you. if you do she will kiss your ass and be too easy and you will no longer be attracted.


find a chick who can challenge you but is not going to use you and **** other dudes. that way you'll be able to enjoy eachother
 

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mahon83050 said:
Even if you are EQUALLY AS GOOD-LOOKING, it would NOT make a difference too much.
No, but having a lot of money, confidence and options will make a lot of difference.
 

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I'm still waiting for somebody to take the time to make a thread explaining why relationships are stupid period.

But honestly, I didn't even read the post, but I can guess what you probably said and I'll say this...you're 100% correct.
 

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mahon83050...

I feel what you are saying and it does make sense to some extent. But I simply cannot settle for less. I would end up leaving the 7/8 at the first sign of a willing 9/10, simply because I would feel I was cheating myself out of achieving better.
 

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I see a guy hitting on my girl as a compliment. He's basicly saying: "Your GF is hot."
Most guys are AFC anyway, so I really don't care. It's hilarious to see some guys trying to be smooth only ending up being laughed at by both me and her :D
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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Yeah I also got a RL example of a thing like that.

Situation: Me and my GF are going out in a venue with some friends having some drinks
*2 random AFC's walk up to her* (we are both 20, they where like 28 or something)
AFCs: Hi how's it going blablablablablabla. We (WHAT-DA-****??? WE???) kinda like you, why don't you come with us and we'll get you a drink.
GF: Uhm, well, no, I have a boyfriend, he's right over there (pointing at me)
*Guys look over, I walk away and go talk to some of my friends a couple feet away facing my gf and the back of the dudes and I start smiling and laughing at my gf in a way that says: "LOLOL, you're stuck with those AFC's talking to you, get rid of them by yourself". The AFC's off course thought: "Yaaay, this is our chance, he's backing off, he's probably affraid because we're such old tough guys."
*GF and AFC's talk a little more with my GF looking at me like: "Please, help me get rid of these fools."*
AFC's: "Well, we don't mind you have BF, he probably wouldn't notice anyway. Let's go get some drinks. blablabla"
*My convo with my friends end. I walk over. Girlfriend walks over to me and says: "Come let's go dance"*
GF to AFC's: "Bye"

GF to me: "Where we're you, you got to stay with me when losers like that start hitting on me?"
Me: "No, I find it pretty amusing to see these dudes try hard and fail miserably."

Love it! :crackup:
 

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No **** dude.

Aha.

Occasionally you find that hott dime who has a rocking personality though. I was lucky enough to find one of those.
 
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