"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Why has oneitis hit me so late?

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Ok i broke up with my ex about 2 goddamn years ago! I aint seen her for 2 years! And after 2 years oneitis has hit me and i cant stop thinking about her.

I mean the mad thing is after we broke up, i was like 'whatever, we've broken up, life goes on'. And i honestly didnt think of her once in 2 years! And even during the relationship i wasnt really thinking about her, i used to just go home and carry on with my business and not even think about us two.

Now after 2 damn years, i seriously cant stop thinking about her. It started about a couple of months ago and i cant get rid of her in my mind. The funny thing is, im certain i dont miss HER. But i still think about her. It doesnt make sense. I mean i dont miss her as a person.

I seriously dont know whats going on! I feel sick coz im thinking of her so much. I just cant stop thinking about all the good times we had.

What the hell is going on!!!??
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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it's normal and probably the fact you need to go out with more other women. out of sight out of mind buddy.
 
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did you have any relationships during the 2 years?

yup, its probably the lack of social interaction. either that or you've got too much time on your hands.

have you noticed when you're busy and absorbed doing things, you don't have much time to think about what went wrong or all the good times you've spent with your exes?

get out there, party or hang with your buddies. don't give your mind enough time to think about her.

i broke up with my ex a year ago and sometimes i do still think of her - like what you said, all the good times we spent together and shyte. but that's only when i'm sitting at home with nothing else better to do.

when i'm doing things, meeting people... WHO THE HECK CARES ABOUT THE EX?

chill mate. oneitis happens to the best of us.
 
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Yea i guess it cos im going through a bit of a social rut at the moment. I ended up disconnecting from my buddies as i decided i couldnt continue hanging around with coke heads anymore. Ive known them since school but it had to be done.

But anyway yea thats right, since then ive been having a lot of time to myself and i guess i aint got nothing to occupy my time other than think a lot.

So i guess its just a case of me getting busy again.
 
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yep. all the best mate. GET OUT THERE!
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Good move getting free of your buddies. Now sarge on!
 
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WOOT WOOT
GO GET TEM:woo: :woo: :woo:
 
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