"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Why? Eye contact and other stuff

Bonafide

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Tell me, why do chicks always stare at me? But it doesnt seem like they are giving me a loving stare lol its like I catch em and they are like just staring with no emotion....and well today, Im sitting in class... the door was open anda chick walks by...we make eye contact for abour 2.5 seconds (the ammount of time it takes her to pass the door) and after she passes the door she walks back and gives like a stare and just walks off again...however I dunno if she was staring at me or the kid next to me...but we both made eye contact with her (im guessing)

and another question... I can hold eye contact with girls for a long time but sometime when im on the streets or at the bus stations when going to school (im 16) I see these females and some of the eye contact last longer than others. However, I read somewhere that the male should never look away first, but these girls hold the contact for so long I feel like they are going to feel threatened and confront me rather than attracted if I continue to hold contact so sometime I just look away



and theres this girl I see in the afternoons now, I like her shes, pretty...seems quiet and shy but you never know...we never really had eye contact up until yesterday where I caught her basically giving a dead stare at me and like she looked like she wanted to murder me or something lol I dunno wut to do
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Warrior74

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Are you attractive? Try smiling, nodding your head, or throwing a little wave their way. If they reciprocate, say hi and start a convo. Don't just stare at a woman without doing something. Even if you just say hi it breaks the tension.

If you have low self esteem/negative beliefs it may be hard to realise they are staring because they are choosing you.

Try what I said and report back here with your results. That's your assignment if you are here to learn. You learn by experimenting in the field. Good hunting trooper.
 

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Smile. Itll do wonders.
 

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Bonafide said:
Tell me, why do chicks always stare at me? But it doesnt seem like they are giving me a loving stare lol its like I catch em and they are like just staring with no emotion....and well today, Im sitting in class... the door was open anda chick walks by...we make eye contact for abour 2.5 seconds (the ammount of time it takes her to pass the door) and after she passes the door she walks back and gives like a stare and just walks off again...however I dunno if she was staring at me or the kid next to me...but we both made eye contact with her (im guessing)

and another question... I can hold eye contact with girls for a long time but sometime when im on the streets or at the bus stations when going to school (im 16) I see these females and some of the eye contact last longer than others. However, I read somewhere that the male should never look away first, but these girls hold the contact for so long I feel like they are going to feel threatened and confront me rather than attracted if I continue to hold contact so sometime I just look away



and theres this girl I see in the afternoons now, I like her shes, pretty...seems quiet and shy but you never know...we never really had eye contact up until yesterday where I caught her basically giving a dead stare at me and like she looked like she wanted to murder me or something lol I dunno wut to do
this is me in a nutshell. I'm older than you though (21)

Advice appreciated please! are they staring because they see something they like or because I'm a social reject?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Deadly_Assassin

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but what if you when if you catch them staring, and you smile at them and they don't smile back? game over?
 

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Deadly_Assassin said:
but what if you when if you catch them staring, and you smile at them and they don't smile back? game over?
I need to know the answer to this for class tomorrow. I swear I constantly kept making eye contact today. But kept looking away.
 

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Personally I prefer a grin and sticking my tongue out :)
 

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oakraiderz2 said:
Smile. Itll do wonders.
don't forget to open your mouth too and make words come out too

are you ever gonna talk? or are you just gonna focus on the meaningless subtleties of eye contact forever
 

Bonafide

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what if she doesnt smile back? lol


today got a smile from a girl from a distance that I thought liked me for a while...shes pretty average...maybe 6 or 7 we also were in a room together where she was sitting with another guy and the teacher teased her and said that was her boyfriend and she was so upset about it so could this mean that shes trying to show that shes single?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Dude, the girls looking at you, either do so because they find you extremely repulsive or because they find you attractive. However, you said they stare at you, that means they are interested. They wouldn't be staring at you if it was for a bad reason. The best thing you can do is smile, if she smiles back GO FOR IT! Trust me, I've been in the same situation many times and just stared back too many times. If you just stare back nothing will ever happen and you will hate yourself for not smiling and trying to make it go further.
 
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