"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

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Hi,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

To get down to brass tacks, what is an acceptable response to the question in the subject line? I've been asked this by multiple women and can't think of an answer that doesn't make me seem like a total mook. The whole spectrum of "I'm a dork" to "No woman can tame me, baby" seems bad/cheezy.

What do you guys think. I'm interested in any ideas.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Stéphane

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It means your attractive and girls are wondering why your single.
 

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Well, I'll admit I've indulged my ego in allowing that thought to cross my mind (Although I don't know if it's true). At least two of the women that have asked this have been unavailable.

Still, what should I say?
 

Stéphane

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Don't answer, and set up your own question. Why are you asking this?
 

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Interesting...

I like that. The only problem I have is that the question is bound to come up again, later.

I suppose I could continue being evasive, but couldn't that "trigger some alarm bells"?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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I agree with it triggering alarm bells. When girls ask you questions like that, its a loaded gun and your treading on VERY thin ice. Every answer to me can be analyzed in a bad way...maybe a "good" answer differs with each girl?

I remember the last girl who asked me that, I made a HUGE mistake in my answer. I told her "Oh well recently I've just been doing hookups no real relationships." And what did I get when I told her that? Just a hookup.
 

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Somebody on here said this but I don't know who.

"I don't have a girlfriend, but I know somebody who'd get mad if she heard me say that."

Say it confidently, with a sly smile and move on.

Another one you can say is, "I'm currently accepting applications, but I must warn you I only take on qualified applicant's."
 

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Guitar: Thanks bro, I tried to search and couldn't come up with anything.

Lost: I think you hit the nail on the head. I want a response that projects some kind of quiet confidence. I don't want to seem like a dork (which I don't think I am) or some smooth player that's going to get her guard up (which I'm definitely not).
 

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Maxtro:

I believe the first line is from comic Mitch Hedberg (I may be wrong about this, however)

The second line seems like it is a bit player-ish. I don't know if it would work unless she was really into me and willing to throw caution to the wind.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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My answer the best one just because a girl throws a **** test doesn't mean you need to answer it. Girls asking this are usualy single, you should just say why don't you have a boyfriend?
 

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Yup I just Googled it and it is Mitch Hedberg.

"I don't have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who'd be mad at me for saying that."

I still think it's a great response.

As for for my second one it does seem kind of playerish and not everybody can pull it off. Heck I don't know if I can :crackup:
 

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Use Chris Farelys line.

"Well many women have tried to lasso this stallion,but for now,this wild buck has to roam free or he will die"

On second thought if that one seems too cheesy(or if you cant pull it off) OR Maxtro's 2 are excellent to use.

But ya man these are good signs if they ask you.
 

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Strange. Off the top of my head one woman was in a serious relationship and another was married.

What was the Chris Farley line from? I'm a big fan.
 

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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Nick1984 said:
Hi,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

To get down to brass tacks, what is an acceptable response to the question in the subject line? I've been asked this by multiple women and can't think of an answer that doesn't make me seem like a total mook. The whole spectrum of "I'm a dork" to "No woman can tame me, baby" seems bad/cheezy.

What do you guys think. I'm interested in any ideas.
I've done this one before: "Cause I'm a virgin...". I had this huge smile on my face, started semi-laughing. She didn't know if I was serieus or not, but she found out later ;), telling me: "THERE'S No way YOU are a virgin!". I just laughed and said sure I am.
 

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nice one if u return it by saying, "why are you asking this?" like stephane said...

u can also say outright,"because maybe i have not met the right person yet..." simple and challenging in PUA terms and if u just imagine urself saying that without acting needy whereas u r a bit attractive too, it will amplify the attraction instantly i think.
 

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I'll ask you honestly, "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

The answer you give me should be the answer you give them. Cheers!
 

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how I usually respond (because for some reason EVERY girl I hang out with asks me the same thing) is usually with another question like : "Why don't you have a bf?" or "What? Am I supposed to?" or "Are you trying to tell me something?" (usually say that one with a smirk so she knows youre not taking her too seriously)
 

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