Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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"Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

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Hi,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

To get down to brass tacks, what is an acceptable response to the question in the subject line? I've been asked this by multiple women and can't think of an answer that doesn't make me seem like a total mook. The whole spectrum of "I'm a dork" to "No woman can tame me, baby" seems bad/cheezy.

What do you guys think. I'm interested in any ideas.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Stéphane

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It means your attractive and girls are wondering why your single.
 

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Well, I'll admit I've indulged my ego in allowing that thought to cross my mind (Although I don't know if it's true). At least two of the women that have asked this have been unavailable.

Still, what should I say?
 

Stéphane

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Don't answer, and set up your own question. Why are you asking this?
 

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Interesting...

I like that. The only problem I have is that the question is bound to come up again, later.

I suppose I could continue being evasive, but couldn't that "trigger some alarm bells"?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I agree with it triggering alarm bells. When girls ask you questions like that, its a loaded gun and your treading on VERY thin ice. Every answer to me can be analyzed in a bad way...maybe a "good" answer differs with each girl?

I remember the last girl who asked me that, I made a HUGE mistake in my answer. I told her "Oh well recently I've just been doing hookups no real relationships." And what did I get when I told her that? Just a hookup.
 

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Somebody on here said this but I don't know who.

"I don't have a girlfriend, but I know somebody who'd get mad if she heard me say that."

Say it confidently, with a sly smile and move on.

Another one you can say is, "I'm currently accepting applications, but I must warn you I only take on qualified applicant's."
 

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Guitar: Thanks bro, I tried to search and couldn't come up with anything.

Lost: I think you hit the nail on the head. I want a response that projects some kind of quiet confidence. I don't want to seem like a dork (which I don't think I am) or some smooth player that's going to get her guard up (which I'm definitely not).
 

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Maxtro:

I believe the first line is from comic Mitch Hedberg (I may be wrong about this, however)

The second line seems like it is a bit player-ish. I don't know if it would work unless she was really into me and willing to throw caution to the wind.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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My answer the best one just because a girl throws a **** test doesn't mean you need to answer it. Girls asking this are usualy single, you should just say why don't you have a boyfriend?
 

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Yup I just Googled it and it is Mitch Hedberg.

"I don't have a girlfriend. But I do know a woman who'd be mad at me for saying that."

I still think it's a great response.

As for for my second one it does seem kind of playerish and not everybody can pull it off. Heck I don't know if I can :crackup:
 

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Use Chris Farelys line.

"Well many women have tried to lasso this stallion,but for now,this wild buck has to roam free or he will die"

On second thought if that one seems too cheesy(or if you cant pull it off) OR Maxtro's 2 are excellent to use.

But ya man these are good signs if they ask you.
 

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Strange. Off the top of my head one woman was in a serious relationship and another was married.

What was the Chris Farley line from? I'm a big fan.
 

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"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Nick1984 said:
Hi,

Long time lurker, first time poster.

To get down to brass tacks, what is an acceptable response to the question in the subject line? I've been asked this by multiple women and can't think of an answer that doesn't make me seem like a total mook. The whole spectrum of "I'm a dork" to "No woman can tame me, baby" seems bad/cheezy.

What do you guys think. I'm interested in any ideas.
I've done this one before: "Cause I'm a virgin...". I had this huge smile on my face, started semi-laughing. She didn't know if I was serieus or not, but she found out later ;), telling me: "THERE'S No way YOU are a virgin!". I just laughed and said sure I am.
 

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nice one if u return it by saying, "why are you asking this?" like stephane said...

u can also say outright,"because maybe i have not met the right person yet..." simple and challenging in PUA terms and if u just imagine urself saying that without acting needy whereas u r a bit attractive too, it will amplify the attraction instantly i think.
 

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I'll ask you honestly, "Why don't you have a girlfriend?"

The answer you give me should be the answer you give them. Cheers!
 

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how I usually respond (because for some reason EVERY girl I hang out with asks me the same thing) is usually with another question like : "Why don't you have a bf?" or "What? Am I supposed to?" or "Are you trying to tell me something?" (usually say that one with a smirk so she knows youre not taking her too seriously)
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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