"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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why don't you have a girlfriend?

LouBrication

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how do you guys answer this question? i usually just say i just havent found the right one yet. but my real reason for not having a gf is because most of the girls i hooked up with already had boyfriends, and it kind of screwed up my trust in girls. i mean if a girl would cheat on her man with me, then my gf might do the same to me. so i try to avoid getting too serious with a chick because i dont wanna get cheated on. (yeah i got issues)
anyway, i was wondering if i should ever let a chick know this when they ask why i dont have a gf? would it help or hurt my game?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Le Parisien

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LouBrication said:
anyway, i was wondering if i should ever let a chick know this when they ask why i dont have a gf? would it help or hurt my game?
Of course not!:wave: Of course not!:nono:

It's not even about your game, it's about common sense.
 

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"It's a highly lucrative position and all the candidates have been underqualified."
 

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LouBrication said:
how do you guys answer this question? i usually just say i just havent found the right one yet. but my real reason for not having a gf is because most of the girls i hooked up with already had boyfriends, and it kind of screwed up my trust in girls. i mean if a girl would cheat on her man with me, then my gf might do the same to me. so i try to avoid getting too serious with a chick because i dont wanna get cheated on. (yeah i got issues)
anyway, i was wondering if i should ever let a chick know this when they ask why i dont have a gf? would it help or hurt my game?
Ok ok ok ok ok....let me get this straight....you are going to tell a girl you just met that you are single because you sleep with girls that have boyfriends and you have no trust in girls and are worried about them cheating.....

Look at that again......Now think what a girl will think. For starters....it REEKS of insucurity.

If she saw you as any kind of relationship material you are out the window....your scared of commitment plus you spend most time spending time with cheaters (even if your not the cheater it shows you not that arsed by it)

If she saw you as a a quick shag...she wouldnt ask the intial question unless making convo....as she wouldnt care if you had one or not....


My answer to that kind of question is that I just say im quite picky. It DHV. Shows that you dont take ****. It can be seen as too ****y but its how you say it...From here she will say something like "well your confident". Can break into C+F from here.

The other thing i say is that I just aint found Miss Right yet. Normally this is followed by an "awww". Play on from there.


Depends on the type of girl....


Sarge On!
 

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mrRuckus said:
"It's a highly lucrative position and all the candidates have been underqualified."
:up: :up: :up:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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lol i got asked if i was single on the train this one time by this hb 7 who was flirting with me and i sed nah i dont have one then she was surprised and asked why and i said im too lazy do u? and then she sed she was lazy as well so then i sed same thing and she disagreed, yep too lazy is a shiner
 

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Anytime this happens I always either C&F or go serious on them.

Example if they ask that I would either run bradp's 8 girl routine or make up some C&F on the fly, maybe point over at a girl I know and say thats my gf and go and put my arm around her and kiss her on the cheek

or if I'm going serious I tell them...That I love women and love making them happy, and sharing intense experiences. This always gets them curious about what intense experiences I have to offer.
 

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Don't tell her your real reason. Just be aloof' if you ever get that question.
 

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One thing guys have to realise is that you are NEVER obliged to answer any question that someone asks you. Let alone a question from a chick and let alone one about relationships.

In fact, making a ****y or funny answer is actually better than letting the convo get heavy and serious. You want to keep things light and fun with chicks. Examples off the top of my head: "uh oh, sounds like someone wants to apply for the job!" or "it would be unfair to all the other chicks!". Then you can immediately flip the question back to her (and trust me, chicks WILL be insecure about not having a BF). (By the way, just to answer your question, your suggested answer is terrible - it reeks of insecurity).

Once you develop a "leader"/confident (I hesitate to say alpha, it's so cliche) mindset you will not even feel the need/pressure to respond to something, you will be so in control of the interaction. Instead of being concerned you don't have the "right" answer, or what might hurt your chances you'll be so confident you don't care about their question, and you'll just carry on about leading the interaction to where you want it to go.
 

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Why don't you have a gf???

Because byatch I don't love them hoes, and fk you too.

That line has gotten me so much p______

It's unreal! It will work on anyone.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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LouBrication

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JJMcLure said:
"uh oh, sounds like someone wants to apply for the job!" or "it would be unfair to all the other chicks!".
^lol, i like these answers. i think i'll say something similar to this next time. C&F is the shiznit!

ok well, i realize now how insecure my reason is... good thing i havent told any potential mates about it... but it IS hard to trust girls after being with a few cheaters... and it's not like i TARGET girls with bf's, it was mostly coincidence... sometimes girls don't even mention their bf's until after you two already went too far.
 

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"Why are you so curious?"

"What's wrong with being single?"

"Why don't you have a boyfriend?"

"Because I haven't found a girl that can handle me."

"Looking to fill the position? Call my secretary and we'll do lunch."

"Because I don't want one."

"Awfully nosy, aren't you?"

"Awwww...... you DO care!"
 

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Some people are so use to the monotunity that they expect you to have a girl by a certain age. I don't have a girl yet and glad that I don't, because she would probably just get in my way. I get older chicks asking me why don't I have a girlfriend. My answer is right now I'm just just to busy to spend anytime on a single girl. And I will be busy the next couple years
 

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Everything ace of Flames said is brilliant. Then ""It's a highly lucrative position and all the candidates have been underqualified."" is also great.

I guess the principle is to say anything but, "i dont know" haha
 

Francisco d'Anconia

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Ace of Flames said:
"Why are you so curious?"

"What's wrong with being single?"

"Why don't you have a boyfriend?"

"Because I haven't found a girl that can handle me."

"Looking to fill the position? Call my secretary and we'll do lunch."

"Because I don't want one."

"Awfully nosy, aren't you?"

"Awwww...... you DO care!"
"What's wrong with being single" is basically my standard retort to the question. It's also a good qualifying question. ;)
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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an old one:

"You know, I realize my own value at times and there are few candidates but....."
 

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Just say, "I'm waiting for someone who... excites me." *grin*
 

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last girl that asked how long I have been single... I responded with a "weeeeeell, ya know, i dunno..." It sounded like I was not telling the truth or I was being shady and she said " ah, u do have a girlfriend dont you!!" It was kind of cool cuz now she was left kind of confused and I think she thought I was some kind of player. :p
 
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