"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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I'm not emotionally attached to anyone at all really, and could care less if I'm single or in a relationship to be honest. I get laid every few weeks and have even been able to "turn down" girls that have wanted to do something. Yet this one girl keeps making me act like a chump. I have no idea why though She is cute but not THAT attractive, and she has a real cool personality but I still don't know why I can't get over her. Anyone have any advice?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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How many women do you know who have personalities similar to hers?
 
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Yeah I tried to get something going with her before but it just never happened, even despite it being obvious we both wanted it too (I think because we both are introverts). I think it may be like an unfinished business thing but I'm not sure.

She does have a real cool personality but nothing I should be turning down other girls for just so I might get with her. It's like I don't think logically when I'm around her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Sounds like she has a stronger personality.
 
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Wow, this thread really hits home man. I feel for ya.

I have the exact same problem with this one girl. She's not really great looking or anything she's just pretty average but for some friggin reason I ALWAYS act chumpish when talking to her. Damn, it pisses me off.

She does have this air of confidence about her, always has an answer for my ****y funny act, and she just seems to control the frame at all times.

She wont let me control the frame, she's so damn good at leading the situation that she makes me feel like the girl. Maybe she's in my head a lot because I feel like I need to break her down so to speak.
 
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