I'm not emotionally attached to anyone at all really, and could care less if I'm single or in a relationship to be honest. I get laid every few weeks and have even been able to "turn down" girls that have wanted to do something. Yet this one girl keeps making me act like a chump. I have no idea why though She is cute but not THAT attractive, and she has a real cool personality but I still don't know why I can't get over her. Anyone have any advice?
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Why does this one girl have power over me?
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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
KontrollerX
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Hmmm you ever try and get anything going with her?
Francisco d'Anconia
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How many women do you know who have personalities similar to hers?
Yeah I tried to get something going with her before but it just never happened, even despite it being obvious we both wanted it too (I think because we both are introverts). I think it may be like an unfinished business thing but I'm not sure.
She does have a real cool personality but nothing I should be turning down other girls for just so I might get with her. It's like I don't think logically when I'm around her.
She does have a real cool personality but nothing I should be turning down other girls for just so I might get with her. It's like I don't think logically when I'm around her.
Derek Flint
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Because you let her.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
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Sounds like she has a stronger personality.
Wow, this thread really hits home man. I feel for ya.
I have the exact same problem with this one girl. She's not really great looking or anything she's just pretty average but for some friggin reason I ALWAYS act chumpish when talking to her. Damn, it pisses me off.
She does have this air of confidence about her, always has an answer for my ****y funny act, and she just seems to control the frame at all times.
She wont let me control the frame, she's so damn good at leading the situation that she makes me feel like the girl. Maybe she's in my head a lot because I feel like I need to break her down so to speak.
I have the exact same problem with this one girl. She's not really great looking or anything she's just pretty average but for some friggin reason I ALWAYS act chumpish when talking to her. Damn, it pisses me off.
She does have this air of confidence about her, always has an answer for my ****y funny act, and she just seems to control the frame at all times.
She wont let me control the frame, she's so damn good at leading the situation that she makes me feel like the girl. Maybe she's in my head a lot because I feel like I need to break her down so to speak.