I'm not emotionally attached to anyone at all really, and could care less if I'm single or in a relationship to be honest. I get laid every few weeks and have even been able to "turn down" girls that have wanted to do something. Yet this one girl keeps making me act like a chump. I have no idea why though She is cute but not THAT attractive, and she has a real cool personality but I still don't know why I can't get over her. Anyone have any advice?
Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single
She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Why does this one girl have power over me?
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
KontrollerX
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Hmmm you ever try and get anything going with her?
Francisco d'Anconia
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How many women do you know who have personalities similar to hers?
Yeah I tried to get something going with her before but it just never happened, even despite it being obvious we both wanted it too (I think because we both are introverts). I think it may be like an unfinished business thing but I'm not sure.
She does have a real cool personality but nothing I should be turning down other girls for just so I might get with her. It's like I don't think logically when I'm around her.
She does have a real cool personality but nothing I should be turning down other girls for just so I might get with her. It's like I don't think logically when I'm around her.
Derek Flint
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Because you let her.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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Sounds like she has a stronger personality.
Wow, this thread really hits home man. I feel for ya.
I have the exact same problem with this one girl. She's not really great looking or anything she's just pretty average but for some friggin reason I ALWAYS act chumpish when talking to her. Damn, it pisses me off.
She does have this air of confidence about her, always has an answer for my ****y funny act, and she just seems to control the frame at all times.
She wont let me control the frame, she's so damn good at leading the situation that she makes me feel like the girl. Maybe she's in my head a lot because I feel like I need to break her down so to speak.
I have the exact same problem with this one girl. She's not really great looking or anything she's just pretty average but for some friggin reason I ALWAYS act chumpish when talking to her. Damn, it pisses me off.
She does have this air of confidence about her, always has an answer for my ****y funny act, and she just seems to control the frame at all times.
She wont let me control the frame, she's so damn good at leading the situation that she makes me feel like the girl. Maybe she's in my head a lot because I feel like I need to break her down so to speak.