I've been talking to this girl at school for the past few months and she's really cool and has an awesome bubbly personality. I used to consider her out of my league (she sort of is, better looking than me + higher social status), but i started noticing in the past few weeks that she was really into me. I started developing feelings for her and she recently told my friend that she really liked me wanted to date me, which of course i was pretty happy about and i was seriously considering dating her. The thing is though this morning it was like a switch just flicked in my head and i completely lost interest in her and stopped caring what she thought. Why does this happen? The only fault i can really come up with when i think of her is that she isn't very bright and lacks some common sense (i suppose i do as well though). I just don't get why this happened and now I'm pretty damn disappointed.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
why does this happen
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It may be your ego. It happened to me before. Your ego likes to know that you could get her. If you make a move you may risk losing that status, thus your ego doesnt want it to happen.
If you think she is cute make a move dude. I wish i had done it. If you wait to long youl just lose her and be left you as lot of regret.
If you think she is cute make a move dude. I wish i had done it. If you wait to long youl just lose her and be left you as lot of regret.
She has a cute face, awesome personality, we have a fair bit in common and everyone loves her (10/10 tits as well which is a nice bonus). I'm pretty sure if I don't get with or date her i'm really going to regret it later on as well, is there any way for me to build up more attraction/interest towards her?Watawata said:
Jair213
Master Don Juan
You goal now is to get her in to bed. AND TIT Fvck her good.than said:
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
I actually think im going to cut it off with her, she's one of the nicest, most innocent girls i know and i don't think i could use her when she wants a relationship from me. Especially when shes going through stuff with her dad right now which she trusts me enough to talk about.Jair213 said:
for future reference how am i supposed to stop this from happening next time i want a relationship?Drook said:
Dafuk? She wants a relationship with you.than said:I actually think im going to cut it off with her, she's one of the nicest, most innocent girls i know and i don't think i could use her when she wants a relationship from me. Especially when shes going through stuff with her dad right now which she trusts me enough to talk about.
Shes cute.
Great tits.
Are you gay? Go for it dude.
devilkingx2
Master Don Juan
I commend your morals however, you're seeing a false dichotomythan said:I actually think im going to cut it off with her, she's one of the nicest, most innocent girls i know and i don't think i could use her when she wants a relationship from me. Especially when shes going through stuff with her dad right now which she trusts me enough to talk about.
for future reference how am i supposed to stop this from happening next time i want a relationship?
1. break her heart after using her
2. don't get involved at all
you fail to consider option 3
3. get into a relationship with her and when it's time to break up, do something that makes her break up with you, or something neither of you will be angry about(I'm moving away, I'm gay, I'll be dead in 2 weeks and in unrelated news my completely identical twin brother hugo sanchez will be moving into town, etc.)