Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
It's how you hold yourself. If you look and dress good and are relatively successful in life, you'll do fine. If you doubt yourself or put a female on a pedestal, they will smell and sense desperation. Remember, a female's DNA can sense this (weakness and desperation). One needs to always place themselves first and keep their lady in check at all times. She cannot feel too safe either. There always has to be that possibility that you will drop her if she gets too out of line.
Where you focus your attention, your energy flows.
